The first sugar daddy date is of monumental importance. Why? Simply because it is the point that marks the beginning – or end – of any potential sugar relationship.
Most sugar daddies will know whether they want to enter into an arrangement with you after this one date. Most sugar babies will know whether they want to proceed with the arrangement after this date.
In essence: it’s the date that makes or breaks a potential sugar relationship.
That might sound like a lot of pressure, but it’s really not. It’s a great opportunity to strut your sugar game, instantly find out who you’re compatible with (and cross out those you’re not), and be treated to a fabulous dinner – all at the same time.
To ensure your first sugar daddy date is awesome, here is everything we’ve learned about meeting a sugar daddy for the first time.
Before Meeting a Sugar Daddy for the First Time…
Talk to him on the phone first. You should always have a phone call or video call with a sugar daddy before arranging the first sugar daddy date. It’s a quick and easy way to get a feel for a person. If he gives you the creeps over the phone, you won’t waste time in meeting him. Messages and email can make it hard to pick up on non-verbal cues whereas you can get a much better idea about someone just by chatting with them over the phone for a few minutes.
Always meet in a public place. The first sugar daddy date should always be at a public place. If you can – make it a place of your choice, somewhere you feel comfortable. This should be easy since a sugar daddy will most likely let you choose the restaurant or recommend a few for you to choose from. If he doesn’t, suggest it with a “I’ve been dying to go to ___. Want to meet there?“
Have your own transportation. This is another crucial sugar baby safety tip. If a sugar daddy offers to pick you up, politely decline and ask for cab fare instead. Under no circumstances should you get in a car with a man you do not know.
Ask for cab fare. Even if a sugar daddy doesn’t offer to pick you up, you should ask for cab fare if you’re taking a taxi or Uber. If you’re driving, ask him to cover the parking. It’s a good way to see how generous – or not – a potential sugar daddy is.
5 Tips for the Perfect First Sugar Daddy Date
The first sugar date is crucial. He’ll size you up. You’ll size him up. And you’ll both come to a decision as to whether you want an arrangement with each other.
Which is why you want to put your best foot forward. Here are 5 tips to guarantee this is the best first sugar daddy date both of you have ever had…
#1. Know Your Stuff on His Stuff
Conversation is crucial to a successful sugar relationship. Most sugar daddies tend to appreciate sugar babies they can have good conversations with.
So brush up on your potential sugar daddy’s interests before meeting. From your emails and chats, you’ll already know what they’re into. Are they history buffs? Crazy about technology? Love traveling?
Use what you know about them to get to know more before the first date. You don’t have to be an expert in anything they’re interested in – just get a general understanding so you can be an interested and attentive listener as well as ask relevant questions to keep the conversation flowing.
#2. Your Ease is His Ease
You might be suffering a case of nerves over the first sugar date, but guess what? You’re probably not the only one.
Quite a few sugar daddies are nervous the first time meeting. He might be feeling self-conscious about the fact that you’re much younger than he is (and appear obviously so). Or he might be downright intimidated because of your looks.
Your job is to make him feel at ease. And the easiest way to help him feel at ease is to be at ease yourself. People play off each other’s energies and your body language speaks volumes so take the time to relax yourself before meeting your potential sugar daddy.
#3. Old Friends Over Awkward Encounter
There is nothing more lethal to a first date – especially a first sugar daddy date – than bland small talk.
Instead of pre-prepared questions, approach the potential sugar daddy as you would an old friend.
Greet him like you already know each other: “Hey! It’s awesome to see you! How was your day?”
And launch straight into normal conversation, just as you would with a friend: “So…tell me ’bout your day…anything exciting? I, for one, would love a glass of wine. Anything you recommend?”
Smile often. Laugh more often. Maintain eye contact. And keep the conversation flowing easily, naturally simply by expressing genuine interest in his day, his life, and his interests – just like you would with a friend.
#4. Stay in the Moment, Stay Positive
There might be a lot of things running through your mind on your first sugar date. “Am I dressed appropriately? Does he like me? How am I going to pay my tuition if he doesn’t? OMG…do I know those people at that table?”
Whatever it is that’s on your mind, you can come back to it later. For the duration of the sugar date, the present is the only thing that matters.
The best way to guarantee a great first sugar date is to stay totally and completely in the moment. Show interest in your date. Appreciate the yummy foods you’re eating. Laugh about things happening around you. Relish how beautiful you feel.
Everything else can wait. Don’t bother yourself – or your potential sugar daddy – with pressing worries or concerns. Stay in the moment and share only what’s positive.
#5. Seriously – Have Fun
There’s a lot going on during that first sugar date. But that’s no reason not to have fun.
In fact, your most important priority on a first sugar daddy date is to have fun. After all – what’s the worst that’s going to happen? He’ll decide you’re not what he’s looking for? So what? – you get a chance to try out your sugar baby charm on him while being wined and dined.
Just concentrate on having fun – that is the best impression you can make. And if it doesn’t “work out” – hey, at least you had a fantastic time.
3 Goals for Your First Sugar Daddy Date
Fun is central to the first sugar daddy date. If both of you have a good time, you’re already leagues ahead of the rest. But of course, fun isn’t everything.
There’s also business to take care of.
During the few hours that you have with your sugar daddy, there are a couple goals that you really want to accomplish…
#1. Make Him Want to See You Again
By the end of the first sugar date, if a sugar daddy wants (or even better, needs or must) to see you again, you’ve pretty much already secured yourself an arrangement. All that’s left to be ironed out are the logistics.
So be the ideal fantasy. Present yourself as put together and classy. Wear your best perfume.
Be happy and fun, without coming off immature or fake. Listen – really listen – and be interested when your sugar daddy is talking. Flirt. Let yourself laugh and be entertained by his stories.
In short, make sure you are the best company he’s ever had.
#2. Observe If He is Legit Sugar Daddy Material
The first sugar daddy date isn’t all about you impressing the sugar daddy. It must go both ways.
One of the most useful things about the first sugar daddy date is that it gives you the opportunity to see if a potential sugar daddy is worth being in an arrangement with.
Because a person’s appearance and demeanor speaks volumes about them. So take advantage of the first date to suss out whether this potential sugar daddy is even sugar daddy material.
Observe not their wallet, their cufflinks, or their shoes, but their mannerisms, their eloquence, their overall conduct. Many good sugar daddies may not look the part, but they will act it.
Does he ask you first what you want to eat? Is he interested in what you’re saying? Is he asking questions? How does he talk about his family, his employees, i.e. the people most important to him? Does he like taking care of them and knowing they’re happy? Is he nice to the waitstaff? How much is he tipping?
These little details matter. A lot. A sugar daddy who expresses interest in taking care of those important to him makes a great sugar daddy. A sugar daddy who cares that you’re happy with dinner is going to care that you’re happy in an arrangement.
Take note of the important details.
#3. Demonstrate That You’re “Safe”
One of the most important things you can accomplish during the first sugar daddy date is to demonstrate that you’re “safe.”
You see, the sugar world gets a bad rap. And while most of the participants are lovely, decent people…there are a few bad apples that often ruin the party.
So you want to make it very clear from the beginning that you are one of the “safe” ones. That while you’re fun, mysterious, and wild in the right ways, you are also discreet, trustworthy, honest, and simply not a threat to a potential sugar daddy’s family, career, or need for a quiet, drama-free life.
If you can gain a sugar daddy’s trust from the first sugar date, you’re much more likely to find yourself in an arrangement with him.
Where to Go for the First Sugar Daddy Date?
When it comes to where to meet a potential sugar daddy for the first time, you have several options, ranging from the very casual to the more time intensive. Here are some popular first sugar daddy date ideas.
Coffee Date. The most casual way to do a Meet and Greet, can be short enough to squeeze into a busy day, and is a great way to make sure a potential sugar daddy looks like his pictures and is who he says he is and vice versa. Usually not long enough for in-depth conversations but is overall a good way to get a feel for each other.
Brunch or Lunch. Still casual but typically takes a little longer and you’re sharing a meal together, so a bit more intimate. Conversation can go on a bit longer and more of an opportunity to get to know each other.
Happy Hour. If you’re comfortable doing your first Meet and Greet over drinks, Happy Hour is a good option. It’s a fairly casual way to meet up and both of you have an easy escape if you’re not feeling it. If you are, on the other hand, there’s plenty of room and space to have long winding conversations and get to know each other.
Dinner Date. We usually reserve full-on dinner dates for sugar daddies who we’ve chatted with long enough to know we already vibe. The dinner date is then an opportunity to meet in the flesh and confirm what we already know. This is probably the most time-intensive kind of first sugar date since a good meal at a nice restaurant will be about 1.5 hours and the average multi-course dinner can last around 3 hours.
What is a Good sugar Baby First Date Outfit?
There is no one standard sugar baby first date outfit. That’s because choosing the best first date sugar baby looks depends very much two factors:
- Where are you meeting? The location of the first date matters since you won’t wear the same thing for a quick coffee meetup at the neighborhood cafe as you would to seaside intimate restaurant or an upscale wine bar. The most important thing is that you are dressed appropriately.
- Who’s the potential sugar daddy? Some sugar daddies love eye-catching arm candy. Others are low-key and prefer understated elegance or casual classy to outright flashy. Choose your outfit according to the potential sugar daddy’s preferences, if you already know them.
If you’re not sure and in need of inspiration, check out our first date sugar baby looks.
Overall, for first sugar dates, we love understated, well-put-together outfits with a hint of fun. For ideas, check out the above article for first date sugar baby looks we love.
How Long Should a First Date with Sugar Daddy Last?
An hour or two is perfect for a first sugar daddy date. Three hours maximum – even if it’s a leisurely dinner. And don’t ever stay the night. You’re home by midnight at the very latest.
If it was good enough for Cinderella – it was, she had the prince searching the country for her – it’s good enough for you.
Again, even if you’ve had a fabulous time and the dynamic is amazing – avoid staying too long. He might want to keep you out longer, he might suggest all sorts of fun and inviting things to do, he might even offer a shopping trip. Or mention that the hotel nearby has an amazing spa.
Don’t be tempted – you’re after bigger, greater things. Whatever he suggests, politely decline and leave him wanting more.
A good sugar baby knows her time is precious. Don’t be giving it away before the arrangement is finalized.
What to Talk About on the First Sugar Date?
Some sugar babies may disagree with us on this, but we don’t advise giving much of yourself away, especially on the first date with sugar daddy. In general, here are some conversation topics to steer clear of:
- Easily identifiable details about your life. The street you live on, the company you work in, the school you attend, and so on, are bits of information that you can share once you know and trust your sugar daddy more.
- Personal drama happening in your life. Any familial drama that happened or is happening to you, financial woes, any gossip and strife amongst your friend group, revealing stories about your past relationships have no place in first sugar date conversation.
- Anything controversial. Politics and religion, to start. It’s a good idea to stay away from the more controversial topics of conversation.
So while you should lavish attention and genuine interest on your potential sugar daddy and learn as much about him as you can, also do your part to selectively reveal only bits and pieces of yourself.
You can do this by staying on the conversational offense.
When he asks you questions, answer honestly but keep it simple and lighthearted and then toss a similar question right back at him.
Him: What’s your major?
You: Accounting. What can I say, I love money. What about you – what’d you major in? Did you end up working in something related?
And then follow up with related questions…”If you could do college again, what would you choose?” “What’d you enjoy the most about university?” And so on…
The point of this is not to be closed off – do answer questions and be honest and open. But be selective in what you reveal. Any fascinating and unusual things about you? Talk about those. As for the rest of your life, make him curious to find out more.
Do Sugar Daddies Give Money on a First Date?
Simply put – no. A sugar daddy is expected to pay for the date. That’s it. A particularly interested or generous sugar daddy may pay for transportation or bring you a gift but that’s a nice bonus, not something to be expected.
The first date with sugar daddy is a meet and greet to see if you are both who you said you were. Do you look like your picture? Does he seem like a decent, respectable person? How do you both get on? Is there chemistry?
And most importantly: do you want an arrangement with each other?
These are the questions you’re there to answer, not to charge for the first date. If you really want to be paid to go on dates, we really recommend you try out What’s Your Price. This site lets generous members bid for a date with you so you’ll be able to get paid to go on first dates.
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Should You Discuss Money on the First Sugar Date?
Some sugar babies like to discuss the money details before the date. Others are comfortable talking about it in person on the first sugar date.
Our advice? Leave the allowance talk for after the date. Find out exactly why here.
If you’ve already done your research and you know that the potential sugar daddy is legit, then all you should be doing during that first date with sugar daddy is having fun and making sure he leaves desperate to see you again.
That sets the ground for the allowance talk to go in your favor.
Got any more first sugar daddy date questions or tips you want to share? Let us know in the comments!