As you traverse the paths of the sugar world, you’re going to run into a variety of men. Some of them are going to be awesome, most of them just okay, and a few of them are going to just outright suck.
This post is dedicated to the latter: the Fake Sugar Daddy.
They come in all shapes and sizes but luckily, there are a few things they do and say to give themselves away early on.
To keep you from wasting time on these Fakers, we’ve come up with a list of hints and signs that will help you recognize a fake sugar daddy from the get go!
Here they are…
Ah, the naked picture requester. Most sugar babies have received an email or two from this type of fake sugar daddy at some point in their sugar journey.
All we have to say is: Delete and Block. Immediately.
Or, if you’re bored, shoot him this:
…and then Delete and Block.
No legitimate sugar daddy genuinely interested in a great arrangement is going to solicit naked pictures from random sugar babies. As for the men who do – we suspect they’re probably teenage boys looking for shits and giggles. And yea…we’re not into teenage boys. Who is?
You might be casually chatting with a potential sugar daddy. Or maybe you’ve even been on a date or two with a POT.
Things seem to be going well but once talk of an arrangement and allowance comes up, he comes up with, “Well, before I’d agree to an arrangement, I’d have to test you out first.”
We all know what that means.
Yes, Delete and Block.
You are not a car. He does not get to “test drive” you.
There’s every possibility that an arrangement might not work out once it’s made, but that’s something real sugar daddies are willing to invest in to find out. No legitimate sugar daddy will ask to test drive you.
As for the fake ones who do – well, you know what to do. Pass.
There are men on sugar dating sites who don’t want an allowance-based arrangement. Instead, they’re looking to “pay you per visit.” You will get “paid” only when he visits and there’s only one thing he’s interested in doing during those visits.
These aren’t sugar daddies – they’re johns. And they’re not looking for sugar babies – they’re just too cheap to hire an escort.
And while we have nothing against escorts – sugar babies are not escorts. Sugar relationships are not about pay for play and sex is just a small part of what turns out to be a very dynamic relationship.
Don’t settle for this type of fake sugar daddy. He’s looking in the wrong neck of the woods. Kindly Delete and Block him.
He’s got a yacht. Rolex watches? Even his dog’s got one. Oh, and did he mention (324 times) just how much money he rakes in?
Men like this are living proof that not all that glitters is gold.
These men are hoping to lure in sugar babies with the promise of the fortunes they hold. And even if he is as rich as Midas, it doesn’t mean he’s going to share it with you.
A lot of first time sugar babies make the mistake of thinking that the richest sugar daddies = the best sugar daddies.
That is just not true.
The best sugar daddies are the ones who see to it that you’re taken care of. If he’s not doing that, it doesn’t matter how much glitter he’s got. It’s fool’s gold.
Rude, mean men do not make good company and they certainly do not make good sugar daddies.
If a potential sugar daddy is rude or mean to you at any point, cut ties with him. Even if he’s very wealthy, even if he’s willing to provide you an ample allowance – it ultimately will not be worth the emotional damage you are in for.
The best sugar daddies are first and foremost good people, or at least people who try to be kind to others. You know, adult men who understand things like consideration, thoughtfulness, and courtesy. Don’t make the mistake of getting involved with men who don’t see the value of those traits.
Any and all sugar you receive from them will be more bitter than sweet.
Yet, he proceeds to try to haggle you down to, oh, 50% of what you’re looking for.
Unless he found you on SeekingArrangementRACK.com – which to our knowledge, doesn’t exist – why is he trying to haggle for outlet prices?
Because he’s a fake sugar daddy, that’s why (not always the case, see our “note” below).
When it comes to very, very personal things like finding a great sugar baby, real sugar daddies don’t price shop. And they certainly don’t haggle. If you’re what he’s looking for and you’re realistic about your allowance expectations, he’ll be willing to do his part to make sure you’re happy in the arrangement by giving you what you’re asking for.
Note: Some potential sugar daddies will simply not be able to afford your allowance range, but some of these men can make great sugar daddies as well. If you really like a POT but you’re out of his price range, you can always adjust the amount of time you’d be spending together and put more limits on your availability so you’re both getting what you want.
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: An allowance is NOT a handout.
Sure, he’s giving you money. But he’s most certainly not doing it out of the kindness of his heart. He’s getting a lot in return. Experienced sugar babies know how high maintenance a sugar relationship can be. You’re there for him when he needs you, you listen to him rant and rave about work, you do your best to look your best for him, you make him feel awesome and on top of the world.
That is no small service. So be appreciative of what he does for you (simply ’cause gratefulness is great) but don’t ever forget that the favors are going both ways. If he doesn’t recognize this, it’s probably better to pass on him.
No sugar daddy should be lording what he does over you. Men who do…do not make great sugar daddies.
Very early on in my sugar journey, I sat through a 3-hour dinner with a potential sugar daddy who was under the impression that the sun, moon, and stars revolved around himself.
The topic of conversation through appetizers: The history of himself.
The topic of conversation through the main course: His greatest moments.
The topic of conversation through dessert: His visionary visions and every single tactic and method he’d ever employed, was currently employing, and planned on employing to make his dreams come true.
I thought of at least 19 excuses I could use to flee, but he had the remarkable ability of being able to talk and chew at the same time and I couldn’t get a word in edge-wise.
A painful experience, to be sure, but it taught me a very important lesson: Be wary of potential sugar daddies who are only interested in themselves.
After all, when are you ever going to get around to discussing things that you might need when it’s clearly all about him?
A few other little hints that he’s probably a fake sugar daddy:
And a few notes to help you avoid these fake sugar daddies:
Fake sugar daddies are harmless once you know how to spot them early on. But if you don’t, you can end up wasting quite a bit of your precious time and energy on these men, which is why we wanted to put together this list of fake sugar daddy hints.
Still, we know it’s probably not close to complete. As a smart sugar baby, you’re probably on the always lookout for hints and signs that indicate the personality and intentions of any potential sugar daddy you talk to.
If you have some fake-sugar-daddy-spotting tricks of your own that we missed – please feel free to share them in the comments for other sugar babies to see!