This article is a quickie and I apologize in advance if it comes off a bit harsh, it was written frantically, in response to a whole bunch of comments and emails we’ve received on the exact same scenario: A potential sugar daddy wants my bank login information.
That’s just not kosher. And if it’s just one sugar baby who’s asking the question, it’d be bad. But since there are several sugar babies that are pondering the same thing, this absolutely must be addressed. In detail.
And yes, it may sound harsh but take it as what it is: a warning shout to sugar babies. After all, the last thing we want is for you to get scammed.
So the next time a potential sugar daddy asks you for your banking details, here’s a list of things you really must keep in mind.
You meet someone online, he has nice pictures and he sounds promising. You chat, exchange a few pictures and bam! He wants you to be his sugar baby.
This does not check out. A sugar relationship is not established quite so easily. In fact, it’s pretty much like any other relationship: you chat, you meet, you get to know each other, you develop a sense of what each person is about, and then you decide whether you want to pursue things further with that person.
Think about this way: if you were chatting with a guy on Tinder for all of three days and he proposed to be your boyfriend, that’d raise eyebrows, right?
It’s the same with sugar dating. So if there’s a potential sugar daddy you’ve exchanged a few texts with but have never met up with, don’t know much about, and who doesn’t know much about you…be very, very suspicious when he suddenly wants an arrangement and offers to send great big gobs of cash your way. ‘Cause 99.99999% of the time, yes, it is a scam.
There is absolutely no scenario where a potential sugar daddy should ever need to have your bank login info. None.
In fact, even if you’ve been with a sugar daddy for years and you have tons of trust and respect for him – even then, he does not need to know your bank login ID and password. No real sugar daddy would even ask for this information.
Actually, no one has the right to ask for this information. Not even your closest friends. And definitely not a man you just met. It’s not only a huge invasion of privacy, it’s utterly unnecessary.
The next time a POT asks you for this information – no matter what his reason – do yourself a favor and block him immediately. Then, do other sugar babies a solid and report the scammer to the sugar dating site you met him on.
There are very few rules in the sugar world (every sugar baby has her own tastes and preferences, after all), but this one is a hard and fast rule: If you have never met the person, do not give them any banking information. At all.
Because the truth is, you have no idea if they are who they claim to be. That promising POT could be a bored housewife in Timbuktu. He could be a group of scheming teenagers. Or he could just be your run-of-the-mill scammer who’s decided sugar babies are his favorite targets.
You know by now that bank login information is to never be given out. But this applies to your bank account number as well, especially if you have never met the potential sugar daddy.
Why? In Europe, it may be okay. But in the US, there’s little security for bank drafts. Armed with your bank account routing numbers, scammers can withdraw money from your account without your authorization and even buy stuff online with demand drafts.
So is there ever a case when you can give your bank account number to a sugar daddy? Sure, and that’s when you trust him and you’re in an actual arrangement with him. This includes knowing where he works, where he lives, and other (verifiably) information about him and his life, i.e. a real relationship between two people.
Until then, he can send the money to you via PayPal, Bitcoin or even as a pre-paid card to a P.O. Box. But he’s not getting your bank account info, okay?
Okay, you are. We’re all very unique and special but when it comes to scammers, you’re just another easy paycheck.
The thing is though, scammers can get pretty creative and in the process, really mess with your head. You know in your gut that it’s fishy but you can’t help think to yourself, “Hmmm, maybe it is true, maybe this is an exception.”
It doesn’t matter what the variation is:
And you do know. Even if it’s not the same old Nigerian scam, if it’s some convoluted payment plan that makes you think “what?! is he serious??” – you know in your gut that it is a scam.
So don’t fall for that tempting idea that maybe, just maybe, this can be for real. It’s not. Real sugar daddies have real money and they’re willing and able to provide a real, straightforward allowance for an arrangement that they want.
The others that ask you to jump through hoops and use your own money to get your allowance? Wish them the best of luck with their “business” and cross them off your potential sugar daddies list.
As I mentioned in a previous post, when an aspiring sugar baby is in desperate need of money, she might be fooled into forking over valuable information at the promise of a big allowance to come.
It happens because desperation makes you do stupid things. When you’re hungry, it’s hard to keep a clear head. Yet – these are the times when you most need your wits about you.
So no matter how much you want an allowance right now, no matter how much you want to believe this person who’s promising an arrangement and a hefty allowance – whenever a potential sugar daddy asks you for something that makes you suspicious, check in with yourself to see if you’re considering it out of desperation or if you’re thinking with a clear head.
After all, you’re in this for profit, not loss. And that requires a clear head to get.