I’m a 19-year-old gay sugar baby living in the heart of NYC. This is why I got into sugar dating and everything I learned from having a sugar daddy.
Tell us about yourself: who are you?
Hi! My name is Nathyn! I am 19 years old, and I live in New York City. I go to school in the city, at The New School.
Oh yeah, and I’m a guy. Well, a gay guy, but a guy nonetheless. My experience of the gay sugar baby/daddy world has been complex and amazing at the same time.
I got into sugar dating partly out of my huge tuition costs (over $200,000), and partly out of a realization that I could satisfy the needs of others.
I was also intensely curious about the world of sugar dating and it has always been my philosophy to try everything at least once (and normally twice!).
With all this in mind I talked with my partner of almost a year (plot twist), about what I was thinking. He was as loving and supportive as always and he agreed that it was the right thing to do.
With his approval, I signed up for the sites that I heard were the most successful, were free, and worked the best.
What were your goals in starting the sugar journey?
My goal starting on the sugar journey was to find someone who would care for me financially, while I would care for them, with my company, sex, and most importantly for me, my intelligence (or lack thereof!).
I won’t lie and say that I wasn’t driven by money, because I was, I have rent to pay, tuition debt thats in multiple thousands and of course, food to buy.
But it’s also not a lie to say that I looked forward to keeping others company, to meet those guys who were lonely, and to meet those guys that know what they wanted and knew that they wanted me.
It is that desire, “to be wanted” that really drive us I think. I think it’s a very large driving factor in these relationships, and one that should never be over looked.
What do you wish you had known when you were first starting out?
There are a couple things that I wish I had known when I was first starting out. First of all, the amount of scammers.
Many times I would go back and forth messaging sugar daddies, sometimes for days, and then they would pop the scammer question. “Ok now give me your bank account numbers and mobile password so I can send you money, baby“.
The first few times I was confused, “Is this how it works?” I thought.
After some thinking, and a little research, I decided that it was not how it was going to work for me. I ended all those conversations.
A good way, I discovered, to realize if someone is scamming you (attempting), is to ask them to meet you in person first. The message will soon stop if they really are a scammer, I promise.
Also, long distance relationships are almost never worth it. And most scammers end up saying things like “I’m away on business but I’ll be home soon” (e.g. within a month), this is just a way to trick you. DON’T FALL FOR IT!
The second thing that I wish I had known when I first started out is how nerve wracking your first meeting with your sugar daddy might be. I think I was shaking, I was so nervous. “What if he doesn’t like me?” “What if he thinks I’m ugly?“
Just know that you are beautiful and that if this one doesn’t work out it’s not because of you. You are who you are, and that itself is beauty.
Where and how did you meet your sugar daddy?
Seeking has always been the most effective for me, as other sites do a much worse job of filtering out scammers and possible fake accounts. I met my sugar daddy here. The conversation started out as most do:
Sugar Daddy: “Hey”
Sugar Daddy: “I love your pictures, you’re very cute”
Me: “Aww thanks <3”
Sugar Daddy: “You’re welcome!”
After a bit more of talking and introductions we found a chemistry between us, similar interests, unique tastes in music, both on the same page in terms of what the relationship would entail. I think forming a bond with your sugar daddy is beyond important.
You shouldn’t be there and hate every minute of it. Find someone who is just as interested in you as you are in them. That is how you make a successful sugar relationship.
What’s your favorite thing about being a sugar baby?
My favorite things about being a sugar baby is being cared for. Being treated to nice dinners, bought nice cute sweet things, and being overall the center of attention are always huge benefits.
I love trying new places and things with my sugar daddy. I always love being surprised with new places, gifts, places to go!
What advice would you give to aspiring sugar babies?
A couple things that a sugar baby should keep in mind is that you should NEVER do something that you don’t want to do. You can always say no, and never ever forget that.
The situation is as much in your control as it is in theirs. Don’t ever do things that endanger you and harm you. With that in mind, don’t be afraid to try new things, it keeps things new and exciting!
I hope that sharing my story helps you to become even more confident in yourself and in your future endeavors!