The 1 – 2 – 3 Step To Mastering the Sugar Daddy Search

By Caitlin


So many aspiring sugar babies have similar beginnings. It all starts by signing up for one of the many sugar daddy websites. A profile is written. Stunning photos are uploaded.

And then the fun begins.

For the first couple of days, the inbox fills up with emails from interested sugar daddies. Replies are sent. Emails are exchanged and dates are set up.

There are so many potential sugar daddies! The aspiring sugar baby is elated.

It’s all good up to this point, but as every sugar baby learns…the emails start to dry up after awhile if you don’t spring for paid, featured membership. The thing is, your profile no longer gets top mention, you’re no longer new news, and most sugar daddies don’t have/make/take the time to go perusing through thousands of sugar baby profiles to stumble across yours.

So what does the aspiring sugar baby do? She keeps correspondence with the potential sugar daddies that contacted her the first couple of days, hoping that one of them will “work out.”

Each of the potentials seem promising… ’til they’re not and then the aspiring sugar baby is back at square one, feeling deflated, rejected and irked at the empty promises of the sugar world.

If you’ve been there before, know that you’re not the only one. And also know this: there is a better method to finding a sugar daddy.

You see – whereas seducing a sugar daddy is an art, finding a sugar daddy is a science. One that consists of an easy-to-follow, 3-step process.

Curious to know what it is? Read on to learn the three step process of mastering your sugar daddy search.

Step 1. Cast a Wide Net

Success in sugar dating is hugely a numbers game – the more sugar daddies you interact with, the higher your chances of finding the ideal arrangement.

The worst thing you can do to yourself is limit the range of sugar daddies you have access to.

To cast your net as wide as possible, use both a passive and an active approach.

The passive approach is easily done:

  • Sign up for each of the best sugar daddy dating websites. The majority of them – like all but one – are totally, completely, 100% free for sugar babies so you have nothing to lose. Note: Don’t go too overboard and register for a dozen websites – it’ll be a full-time job keeping track of them and a lot of sugar daddy dating sites aren’t that great. Stick to just a few of the best ones – we cover the best ones here.
  • Craft an awesome sugar baby profile and post the same one on each of them.

Why this is a good idea: Pretty much all the sugar daddy dating websites charge the men. For this reason, most sugar daddies will sign up for just ONE sugar dating site and stick to it. But this doesn’t mean you have to – increase your access to every pool of sugar daddies possible by making sure you sign up for all the best sugar dating websites.

After all, why would you spend so much time writing the perfect profile for just one site when you can easily post it up to a few and double-triple-quadruple the number of sugar daddies you can reel in?

Now as you let your profile(s) work for you, get to work yourself…

The active approach takes a little more time but is infinitely worth it:

  • Spend at least an hour a day searching the sugar dating websites for sugar daddies who appeal to you.
  • Make the first move by contacting potential sugar daddies with a short, interesting email.
  • Keep both quality and quantity in mind: Plan to contact as many promising sugar daddies as possible in a short amount of time. Not all of them will reply. And not all of the ones who reply will work out. So the more, the merrier.

Why this is great idea: Sugar daddies are busy creatures. They often don’t have the time to browse through thousands of sugar baby profiles to find the diamond in the rough – you. If you want to catch your ideal sugar daddy, plan to do much of the searching yourself.

Don’t limit yourself to the pool of men contacting you – figure out what it is you want and go find him! This will increase both the quantity and the quality of potential sugar daddies in your pool, making it easier for you to reel in a good catch.

Step 2. Keep Track of Your Potentials

If you’re doing Step 1 right, you’re going to have a lot of potential sugar daddies around. Your cup runneth over…and you’re going to need a method to keep track of them all.

Step 2 is all about organization. And no, that does not sound all that exciting, but it is a must-do.

You see, casting a wide net is super important but it is all in vain if you let the good fish slip through your fingers.

Keeping track of all the potential sugar daddies you talk to lets you:

  • Weed out the undesirables – and make sure you don’t mistakenly waste time on them in the future
  • Chart your progress with the sugar daddies who seem promising
  • Remember little details about each potential sugar daddy so you can build relationships with each promising potential sugar daddy…
  • …While at the same time, keeping your options way, way open so if one potential sugar daddy falls through, you still have a whole array of potential SDs to take his place

And it’s really not that difficult to do this. Just keep a “Sugar Log”, a simple Microsoft Doc or Excel Spreadsheet that you can record all your potential sugar daddies on. You can make it look any way you want and add in whatever details are important to you.

Here is a rough example to help you get started:

sugar chart

You can add details like:

  • Name, screenname, profile links
  • Personal details
  • Contact information
  • When and where you met and when you talked on the phone
  • Their preferred arrangement details and allowance range
  • A “Notes” section

The “Notes” section is the most important since it allows you to write freely on everything you’ve observed about a potential sugar daddy. We’ve found it to be the most useful tool in the sugar search. You’d be surprised how much you can learn about a person from one date or even a phone conversation when you have to write about it afterwards.

The more detailed the “Notes” section, the easier it is to pass on unappealing sugar daddies and to keep track of promising sugar daddies. We’ve been surprised to see how accurate some of our first impressions of potential sugar daddies turned out to be.

Alan, the potential sugar daddy on the third row, has all his information crossed out because that’s an easy way to keep track of no-go sugar daddies without deleting their information (so you remember not to talk to them if you come across them again).

The notes on him turned out to be spot-on. He was anal, supremely self-involved, and mostly interested in dating a sugar baby who would hang on his every word and be very grateful for…dinner and his fantastic company. He was crossed out after the first date but continued to keep on calling for weeks, unable to understand how anyone could pass on him (this is why you should always have a Google voice number, ladies…)

A well-kept “Sugar Log” can be the difference between a successful sugar search and a massive time sink.

Make one. Think of it as your little black sugar baby book. And no matter what – even if a potential sugar daddy seems so promising, he makes you want to ditch all the others – maintain your little black book.

Step 3. Rinse and Repeat

Keep searching. Keep going on dates. Keep recording all your minute observations on your “Sugar Log.” And keep on growing and maintaining your list ’til you find yourself in an ongoing sugar arrangement with a sugar daddy you like…

But even then, don’t let the list die out. Just do it part-time 😉

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[…] Cast a wide net and do not stop contacting, meeting, building up relationships with potential sugar … until you’ve found yourself a great arrangement. […]

Sage U. September 22, 2013

I stumbled across this website and I just read through a few of your posts. I’m left wondering…does this stuff really happen? I’ve seen the sugar baby stuff on TV and such, but I can’t believe that this works.
Can anyone just become a sugar baby? I’m sort of a control freak and I’ve been called an alpha female a lot. Could someone like me find a sugar daddy or do you have to be the submissive type?

    jessica October 10, 2014

    yeah, its all an act… im alpha female too… but I put on this submissive act/show


[…] Some sugar babies may disagree with us on this one, but we have this rule: If a potential sugar daddy does not agree to the allowance asked for (which is reasonable and within what we know is possible with his income range) – politely end the dinner and cross him off the potentials list. […]


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Lily August 29, 2014

Hi. I am really new to this and was starting a blog talking about my transition for ordinary into sugar baby. I loved this post about tracking and started doing it right away. I hope you don’t mind me linking to your page. If you do, let me know and I will not post it or take it down (post isn’t finished). I just think that step 2 is the most important. I was using word trying to make notes of things in profiles and stuff, but find your method much more concise. Thanks for the wonderful information here!

    Caitlin September 6, 2014

    Hi Lily, so glad you found it helpful! Feel free to link and wish you the best of luck in your sugar baby journey 🙂

Tionna October 19, 2016

Good article

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