If you’re looking for a sugar daddy, you need to know the best kept secrets to master the sugar daddy search. These tips can be the very difference between a fruitless search that costs you months or a streamlined search that lands you the sugar daddy of your dreams.
You see, so many aspiring sugar babies have similar beginnings. It all starts by signing up a sugar daddy website. A profile is written. Stunning photos are uploaded.
And then the fun begins.
For the first couple of days, the inbox fills up with emails from interested sugar daddies. Replies are sent. Emails are exchanged and sugar dates are set up.
There are so many potential sugar daddies! The aspiring sugar baby is elated.
Each of the potentials seem promising… ’til they’re not and then the aspiring sugar baby is back at square one, feeling deflated, rejected and irked at the empty promises of the sugar world.
If you’ve been there before, know that you’re not the only one. And also know this: there is a better method to finding a sugar daddy.
You see – whereas seducing a sugar daddy is an art, finding a sugar daddy is a science. One that consists of some easy-to-follow tips.
Curious to know what they are? Read on to learn the crucial tips to master your sugar daddy search.
Widen Your Sugar Daddy Pool
Here’s an underrated truth: the sugar daddy search is hugely a numbers game. Simply put: the more sugar daddies you interact with, the higher your chances of finding the perfect sugar arrangement.
So it goes without saying that the worst thing you can do as a first time sugar baby is to limit the range of sugar daddies you have access to. Nope, you want to fish in the widest sea possible.
How to Do It
The easiest way to get access to millions of sugar daddies? Sign up for all the free sugar baby websites.
Read: 100% Free Sugar Daddy Websites for Sugar Babies Who Don’t Want to Spend a Dime
Here’s what you’re going to do: you’re going to pad out your profile to make it the most enticing thing ever and then register for as many sugar daddy sites as you can handle. It doesn’t take any more effort since you can post the same profile and pictures to every site.
Why It’s a Great Idea
Pretty much all the sugar daddy websites charge the men. For this reason – as well as the fact that most sugar daddies are short on time – most sugar daddies will sign up for just one sugar dating site and stick to it.
But this doesn’t mean you have to. Increase your access to every pool of sugar daddies possible by making sure you sign up for all the best sugar dating websites, especially the free ones.
Take Advantage of Free Promotion
Here’s another little known secret that you can take advantage of: many sugar daddy websites feature your profile when you’re a new member. You don’t have to do anything except sign up – usually for free – and just for being the new sugar babe on the block, you get a boost of free promotion. You really want to take full advantage of this.
Here’s How to Do It
When we say you should sign up for all the free sugar daddy websites – we don’t mean to do it all at the same time. Stagger them so you can take advantage of that beginning period of free promotion.
It looks a little something like this:
- Day 0: Sign up for Secret Benefits. Upload stunning photos. Write an enticing profile. Get busy messaging sugar daddies you like and the ones who contact you after seeing your profile.
- Day 7: Sign up for SugarDaddy.com. Upload the same photos. Copy and paste the same profile. Start exchanging messages with the sugar daddies on the site.
- Day 14: Sign up for Seeking.com. Upload the same photos. Copy and paste the same profile. And so on.
Be fully present on one website until you’ve enjoyed all the benefits of that free promotion. And then sign up for another one.
Why It’s a Great Idea
Typically, there’s a burst of activity and interest when you first sign up for a sugar daddy website. But the emails start to dry up after awhile if you don’t spring for paid, featured membership. The thing is, your profile no longer gets top mention, you’re no longer new news, and most sugar daddies don’t have/make/take the time to go perusing through thousands of sugar baby profiles to stumble across yours.
So while it’s still great to remain proactive on the sugar daddy website you signed up for, it’s also wise to sign up for another site as well. It doesn’t cost you a dime. You get promoted. More sugar daddies see your profile. It’s a win-win-win situation. It’d be silly not to do it.
Keep Track of Potential Sugar daddies
If you’ve done the previous steps right, you’re going to have a lot of potential sugar daddies. Your cup runneth over. And you’re going to need a method to keep track of them all.
Yup, it’s time to start organizing. And that may not sound all that exciting, but it is a must-do.
Because casting a wide net is super important but it is all in vain if you let the good fish slip through your fingers.
How to Do It
The best part is that keeping track of your potential sugar daddies is not that difficult to do.
Just keep a “Sugar Log”, a simple Microsoft Doc or Excel Spreadsheet that you can record all your potential sugar daddies on. You can even just jot down details in the Notes app on your phone.
You can make it look any way you want and add in whatever details are important to you.
Here is a rough example to help you get started:
You can add details like:
- Name, username, profile links
- Personal details
- Contact information
- When and where you met and when you talked on the phone
- Their preferred arrangement details and allowance range
- A “Notes” section
The “Notes” section is the most important since it allows you to write freely on everything you’ve observed about a potential sugar daddy. We’ve found it to be the most useful tool in the sugar daddy search. You’d be surprised how much you can learn about a person from one date or even a phone conversation when you have to write about it afterwards.
The more detailed the “Notes” section, the easier it is to pass on unappealing sugar daddies and to keep track of promising sugar daddies. We’ve been surprised to see how accurate some of our first impressions of potential sugar daddies turned out to be.
Alan, the potential sugar daddy on the third row, has all his information crossed out because that’s an easy way to keep track of no-go sugar daddies without deleting their information (so you remember not to talk to them if you come across them again).
The notes on him turned out to be spot-on. He was anal, supremely self-involved, and mostly interested in dating a sugar baby who would hang on his every word and be very grateful for…dinner and his fantastic company.
He was crossed out after the first date but continued to keep on calling for weeks, unable to understand how anyone could pass on him (this is why you should always have a Google voice number, ladies…)
Why It’s a Great Idea
Keeping track of all the potential sugar daddies you talk to lets you:
- Weed out the undesirables and make sure you don’t mistakenly waste time on them in the future
- Chart your progress with the sugar daddies who seem promising
- Remember little details about each potential sugar daddy so you can build relationships with each promising potential sugar daddy…
- …While at the same time, keeping your options way, way open so if one potential sugar daddy falls through, you still have a whole array of potential sugar daddies to take his place
A well-kept “Sugar Log” can be the difference between a successful sugar daddy search and a massive time sink.
Make one. Think of it as your little black sugar baby book. And no matter what – even if a potential sugar daddy seems so promising, he makes you want to ditch all the others – maintain your little black book. Because…
Remember: A POT is Just a POT
We see this time and time again: an aspiring sugar baby puts up a profile on a few popular sugar daddy websites, she spends a few days messaging back and forth with several seemingly interested potential sugar daddies.
Usually, one of the potential sugar daddies stands out in one way or another. Maybe he’s more interesting than the others, maybe he messages back quicker, maybe he makes promises the others don’t, maybe he’s cuter than the others – whatever the reason, the aspiring sugar baby fixates on this one potential sugar daddy. And she becomes the perfect sugar baby for him, hoping that it will “work out.”
Even while he’s not providing much in return.
Soon, she comes to realize she’s the only one dishing out benefits…for very little reward.
If you’ve been here, you’re not alone. In fact, this is one of the most common sugar baby mistakes. And one that’s crucial to avoid during a sugar daddy search.
How to Do It
Simply put: set a time limit. We recommend you put your best sugar baby foot forward for the first date. Perhaps a second date. Maybe even a third date. But after that, if there’s no arrangement – there are always other fish in the sea.
Stop focusing on one POT, hoping that he’ll recognize soon that you’re the sugar baby diamond in the rough. Instead, get busy casting a huge net by:
- signing up for more sugar daddy websites
- continuing to message and pursue other promising potential sugar daddies
- setting up and going on first dates with several potential sugar daddies
- building up and growing these relationships with multiple potential sugar daddies
- rinsing and repeating
…until you find yourself in a great arrangement that makes you happy.
Why It’s a Great Idea
POTs, as you may already know, simply stands for potential sugar daddy. And when you first start joining sugar daddy websites, you’ll be swimming in them.
That’s great and all but keep in mind: the key word here is ‘potential.’
The last thing you want to do is confuse potential with actual. Because there are disingenuous sugar daddies who will be all too happy to soak up the pleasure of your time and energy without giving anything in return. We call them salt daddies.
The sugar baby hunt is a proactive game so get ready to play and don’t ever give all your attention to a POT before an arrangement has been made.
Do Your Research
Nobody thinks they’ll be doing due diligence when looking for a sugar daddy. But trust us – this is an essential step in a successful sugar daddy search.
How to Do It
Research can really span the range, depending on what you have access to. You should already have their phone number and if they call you, their name should come up on your caller ID. Do a reverse phone check.
You can find out their full name (to do further Google research with, my dear), if they own property, if they have a family, etc.
In general, good old Google is often enough to get some basic details. Enter in a phone number or even a username to see if you can find out more about a potential sugar daddy’s background or sugar daddy credibility.
Why It’s a Great Idea
The last thing you want to do while trying to find a sugar daddy is waste time on POTs that will lead nowhere. A little due diligence can allow you to get some useful information, like:
- Social profiles
- Address
- Whether they own their home
- Where they work
- Criminal reports
You may also be able to find out if a potential sugar daddy is using a fake name or is employed in a position that can not possibly afford a sugar baby allowance.
A little research can save you a lot of time. Speaking of which…
Don’t Waste Time on Time-Wasters
One of the greatest stumbling blocks in every new sugar baby’s journey is the variety of time wasters posing as sugar daddies. These unfortunate realities of the sugar world can come in many different forms, including the…
- Sex Pest. Wants one thing and one thing only – your body. It can be in the form of your nudes, a one night stand, or a quick pay-to-play.
- Sugar Daddy Scammer. He’ll send you lots of money for pretty much nothing. You just need to buy an Amazon gift card…
- Online Abuser. Angry, misogynistic, and generally crass, these abusive sugar daddy wannabes are only on these sites to make sugar babies feel bad about themselves.
- Bargain Hunter. They want all the sugar baby benefits in exchange for letting you use his Costco membership.
And then, of course, there’s the Poof Daddy. Specialty: Leading you on and then disappearing. Where did he go? When is he going to contact you? Is he ever going to fulfill his promises? Um, no. He’s not. Because he’s a Poof Daddy and that’s what he does best.
Here’s the truth: every sugar baby encounters her fair share of these bozos.
The difference between the sugar babies that allows these stumbling blocks to get in their way and the ones who go on to find a sugar daddy is this: block and ignore.
How to Do It
It’s easier said than done but it is as simple as: block and ignore. These stumbling blocks are just inconveniences on the road to find a sugar daddy. If one causes you to fall over, don’t fixate on why it happened, why you were targeted, and so on. Don’t ruminate on it at all.
Learn to metaphorically wipe that dirt off your shoulder and move on. In time, you’ll get much better spotting these obstacles and avoiding them altogether.
Why It’s a Great Idea
Because it’s nothing personal. Stumbling blocks are just an inconvenient part of the sugar world landscape.
Don’t waste your time and energy on rude, abusive men or time wasters by trying to get back in contact and make him interested in your again. Let these guys go as soon as they show a glaring red flag or pull a disappearing act and when they do come back around – unless he has a very valid excuse, i.e. he’s been in a verifiable coma – don’t waste your time on him because a sugar relationship works best when both parties can respect each other and communicate what they want.
And these guys clearly don’t have the ability to do that. The less time you waste with those who aren’t going to give you what you want, the more time you have left to pursue the ones who do.
Don’t Settle for the First Offer
The sugar journey is fun and sparkles when you find yourself corresponding with dozens of interested potential sugar daddies. But as every sugar baby has experienced, there are also slow periods where the sugar fish just aren’t biting.
So what does the aspiring sugar baby do?
Settle for the first sugar daddy who offers her something. Even if it’s not what she wanted. Even if he’s someone she cannot stand to be around. This is a major mistake and one you want to avoid. Because if you don’t like your sugar daddy and the arrangement you agreed to, it’s not going to last long anyway. And you’ll be right back where you started.
Why It’s a Great Idea
Here’s the thing about finding a legit sugar daddy: it can take time. You can do all the previous steps perfectly and find yourself without a sugar daddy.
Does that mean it’s time to throw in the towel?
Hell no. The sugar daddy search is a journey and it will take time. Especially if you hold out for a worthwhile sugar daddy – you know, one you actually like being around.
All the happiness to you if you can find a sugar daddy right away that is perfect for you but the reality is that it will take a while.
How to Do It
Don’t give up. Keep searching. Continue going on dates. Don’t stop recording all your minute observations on your “Sugar Log.” And keep on growing and maintaining your list ’til you find yourself in an ongoing sugar arrangement with a sugar daddy you like.
Now go find yourself that perfect sugar daddy.
