Hi all! My name is Chantelle, and I am a 20 year old West Coast sugar baby. I am a student at university, studying journalism and I have been sugaring for a little over 9 months now.
I’ve had shorter and longer term arrangements over my time as a sugar baby. I have many unique stories and experiences. Eventually, I want to share them all with you as I learn. There are a lot of things that can be gained from sugaring. I hope to understand all of them more as I continue.
Why did you become a sugar baby?
Obviously, as a student, one of my primary goals was money to help fund my education. Also, life as a West Coast sugar baby is expensive so I wanted financial help with that. But, as time wore on, I realized that there are so many more things I could expect from the sugar journey.
After researching, I realized many sugar babies had gained valuable networking contacts, mentors, and even lifelong friends.
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Each SD/SB relationship is different. And each one will gift you a different set of skills or qualities you may have not even known you wanted. After seeing the broad range of things sugaring had to offer, I realized the sugaring experience was about much more than money.
I set my sights on gaining valuable career insight and advice as well as money to help pay for my school and bills.
What do you wish you had known at first?
When I began, I wish I had known about the power I had as a sugar baby. I think many women starting out may not realize that they carry leverage and are allowed to have their own set of demands in an arrangement, too.
Many daddies will set high standards and requirements. While that is all well and good, it is important for sugar babies to be just as firm in their wants.
Read: How to Tell a Sugar Daddy What You Want: 11 Must Know Tips
I wish I would have been more confident asking for what I wanted. I also wish I had been more assertive in what I was and was not comfortable doing. After all, there are different expectations for each relationship!
Being up front in the beginning allows for both you and your sugar daddy to move at the pace that each of you wants and feels comfortable at.
More important than that, is feeling informed. Information is not only power but comfort. Getting familiar with potential daddies gives you the ability to make more informed decisions and makes it easier to relax around them.
Where and how did you meet your sugar daddy?
I met my sugar daddy online at Seeking.com! Honestly though, as a West Coast sugar baby, there are several options because my area tends to have a lot more sugar daddies. So I use that and a few other sites, but Seeking has been my favorite so far.
In my opinion, I definitely think what made me stand out was my ability to be well-spoken and confident. I have been told many times on dates that I am well above their expectations for sugar babies.
Read: How to Talk to a Sugar Daddy to Build Attraction and Connection
Being able to hold a conversation about politics, current events, art, culture, or anything you find intriguing is definitely going to catch the eye of a sugar daddy.
Sugar daddies tend to like women they can connect with in more ways than one. Someone who has the capability to talk with them about anything and everything on a deeper level.
What’s your favorite thing about being a sugar baby?
As cliché as it may sound, I really enjoy being spoiled. Going to dinner and ordering a bottle of wine recommended by your server. All without looking at the price tag, is a feeling I didn’t get when dating men my own age.
Sugaring allows me to enjoy the finer things in life and learn about topics and areas of the world I never would have otherwise known about.
Sugar daddies are often well traveled, well read, and have a lot more life experience than I do. They can bring a perspective to my life I would have never otherwise had.
Being “wined and dined” in the traditional sense is something that sets sugaring apart from other relationships, and I truly believe it is something that makes sugaring so rewarding.
How do you keep a sugar relationship spicy?
Each relationship is going to be kept interesting or spicy in a different way. But one of my favorite ways to keep things fresh is being unpredictable.
Sending a sexy photo, sending a simple text letting him know you’re thinking about him, trying a new restaurant, suggesting a new activity. Anything that will catch him off guard and let him know you’re interested in exploring things with him and thinking of him.
Read: Sugar Daddy Date Ideas: 18 Things to Do With Your Sugar Daddy
The small efforts will catch his attention and will allow you to diversify each sugar relationship into your ideal arrangement.
What advice would you give aspiring sugar babies?
One big piece of advice I would give aspiring sugar babies, is to remember that you are worth the world and deserve whatever arrangement you’d like!
Being polite, honest, and upbeat will allow you to meet men who hopefully have the same interests in mind as you.
Read: Sugar Baby Etiquette Tips that Make You Stand Out
From there, remember your value. That will allow you to continue to be spoiled in the ways that YOU want.
Arrangements are supposed to be fun, rewarding experiences. So don’t allow it to become mundane.
