Tell us about yourself: who are you?
Hi all! My name is Chantelle, and I am 20 years old. I am a student at university, studying journalism and I have been sugaring for a little over 9 months now.
I’ve had shorter and longer term arrangements over my time as a sugar baby. I have many unique stories and experiences and I want to share them all with you as I learn. I think there is a lot of things that can be gained from sugaring and I hope to understand all of them more as I continue.
What were your goals in starting the sugar journey?
Obviously, as a student, one of my primary goals was money to help fund my education. But, as time wore on, I realized that there are so many more things I could expect from the sugar journey.
After researching, I realized many women had gained valuable networking contacts, mentors, and even lifelong friends.
Each sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship is different, and each one will gift you a different set of skills or qualities you may have not even known you wanted. After seeing the broad range of things sugaring had to offer, I realized the sugaring experience was about much more than money, and I set my sights gaining valuable career insight and advice as well as money to help pay for my school and bills.
What do you wish you had known when you were first starting out?
When I began, I wish I had known about the power I had as a sugar baby. I think many women starting out may not realize that they carry leverage and are allowed to have their own set of demands in an arrangement, too.
Many daddies will set high standards and requirements, and while that is all well and good, it is important for sugar babies to be just as firm in their wants.
I wish I would have been more confident asking for what I wanted and had been more assertive in what I was and was not comfortable doing—after all, there are different expectations for each relationship! Being up front in the beginning allows for both you and your sugar daddy to move at the pace that each of you wants and feels comfortable at.
Where and how did you meet your sugar daddy?
I met my sugar daddy online at SeekingArrangements.com! I use that and a few other sites, but SeekingArrangements has been my favorite so far.
I definitely think what made me stand out was my ability to be well-spoken and confident. I have been told many times on dates that I am well above their expectations for sugar babies.
Being able to hold a conversation about politics, current events, art, culture, or anything you find intriguing is definitely going to catch the eye of a sugar daddy. Sugar daddies tend to like women they can connect with in more ways than one—someone who has the capability to talk with them about anything and everything on a deeper level.
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What’s your favorite thing about being a sugar baby?
As cliché as it may sound, I really enjoy being spoiled. Going to dinner and ordering a bottle of wine recommended by your server, without looking at the price tag, is a feeling I didn’t get when dating men my own age. Sugaring allows me to enjoy the finer things in life and learn about topics and areas of the world I never would have otherwise known about.
Sugar daddies are often well traveled, well read, and have a lot more life experience than I do. They can bring a perspective to my life I would have never otherwise had. Being “wined and dined” in the traditional sense is something that sets sugaring apart from other relationships, and I truly believe it is something that makes sugaring so rewarding.
How do you keep your sugar relationship spicy/fun/interesting?
Each relationship is going to be kept interesting or spicy in a different way, but one of my favorite ways to keep things fresh is being unpredictable.
Sending a sexy photo, sending a simple text letting him know you’re thinking about him, trying a new restaurant, suggesting a new activity—anything that will catch him off guard and let him know you’re interested in exploring things with him and thinking of him.
The small efforts will catch his attention and will allow you to diversify each sugar relationship into your ideal arrangement.
What advice would you give aspiring sugar babies?
One big piece of advice I would give aspiring sugar babies, is to remember that you are worth the world and deserve whatever arrangement you’d like!
Being polite, honest, and upbeat will allow you to meet men who hopefully have the same interests in mind as you—and from there, remembering your value will allow you to continue to be spoiled in the ways that YOU want.
Arrangements are supposed to be fun, rewarding experiences, so don’t allow it to become mundane.