My name is Aly, I’m 24 years old and I’m a Cali girl through and through! I’ve been a sugar baby for approximately four years and I’ve loved every second of it.
I love to travel and have lived in New York, London and Barcelona, although I always end up returning to sunny Southern Cali!
Traveling is actually what got me into sugaring in the first place. I was completing my undergraduate and postgraduate degrees abroad and the amount of studying I was doing didn’t leave me a lot of time for a regular 9-5 job.
I also love fashion and handbags are (and always have been) my ultimate weakness!
Money obviously is one of the main reasons any sugar baby gets into sugaring and I did want to have the luxury of not having to worry about money. I had just started to acquire student loans and wanted to put a dent in them before they started to build up.
I also love clothes, handbags, makeup and all things girly so I wanted to be able to buy these things for myself.
Aside from the monetary side of things, I also really did want to meet new and interesting people I knew I’d be able to learn from. I was in a new city and really didn’t feel like I had anything to lose from just trying it out. Haven’t regretted it once!
I wish I’d known that you don’t have to give everyone your time. I used to reply to every single message I would get out of sheer politeness but I’ve learnt over the years that some messages don’t warrant a response (particularly the vulgar ones looking for a budget prostitute).
Basing it on sex might mean meeting up once or twice but basing it on a connection leads to something long term and much better benefits so I’ve definitely become better at filtering my messages.
I’ve also become more confident in knowing what I want and telling men I speak to. Most men will appreciate your honesty and directness. While this may mean less conversations overall, it’ll filter out men not willing to meet your needs right away.
I met my current SD (and every other SD I’ve ever had) on Seeking Arrangement. I was told about the site by a friend who was, at the time, in a three year relationship with a man from the site.
I can always tell from the first 2-3 messages if it’s going to be someone I spend time with. I like to establish the SD/SB relationship early on and I also like them to know I’m not just an escort/prostitute.
My profile picture is me on the front of a boat with a big smile on my face. I know looks play a massive part and so I am in a bikini but I mostly wanted to portray my fun side.
I also like to meet for a coffee or a drink at first. It’s less of a commitment than a dinner so if there’s no connection, you can politely excuse yourself and leave right away!
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I love that I’ve been able to travel (sometimes with a man, sometimes without). I’ve got to experience some amazing places, hotels and restaurants that I definitely would not have seen on my own. As I’ve already said, handbags are my weakness and I don’t know if I would have ever been able to afford the ones that I have on my own!
It’s also taught me a lot about relationships in general and I know that when I choose to settle down, I really will know exactly what I’m looking for in a man. Being with an older, successful man usually means you are treated like a queen so I definitely won’t be settling in future.
I never bog my SD down with stress or problems and I always try to keep things light and fun. I’m quite a fun person anyway so I like to try new things as well.
If you feel like things are getting stale, chances are your SD thinks so too. Dinners are fun but can be repetitive. Try going to a museum or a show or a scenic walk or hike. If you’re comfortable enough with each other, a night away somewhere is always fun too!
My biggest advice would be to know what you want before you start out. Do you want a specific allowance, do you want gifts, do you want your rent/bills covered each month? Have an idea before you start out. Also know what you’re willing to commit to timewise – will you want to meet once a week, once a month, etc.
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Don’t set unrealistic expectations for him and always be honest. It’ll only lead to confusion in the future if you’re not. It might rule out the first ten men but the eleventh could be your perfect match!
I would also advise against falling in love with your SD. Many of them are married or don’t have time for a proper full time relationship (hence being on the site in the first place). Demanding more than they’re willing to give will only lead to the demise of your relationship.
The most important thing is to find someone right for you – it’s called a mutually beneficial relationship for a reason. You only need one good SD to fulfill your needs.