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A 19 Year Old Redhead Sugar Baby on How to Keep it Spicy without Sex

Hello fellow sugar babies! My Name is Ellie. I am a 19 year old British, bisexual, redhead sugar baby. In my non-sugar life, I’m an art student. And I’m in love with all things cultural.

I speak English, French and a handful of other languages on a basic level. I love traveling, but most of my money goes towards shoes, makeup and books.

Why Did You Become a sugar Baby?

Initially I wanted to meet new and interesting people. I love talking to people and you find the most fascinating and diverse set of people on online dating sites.

The SD/SB relationship was always something I’ve joked about and I thought I’d give it a whirl. It’s been a year and I’m still loving it!

What do you wish you’d known Before Starting?

That some Sugar Daddies do NOT want to be your friend. Believe me when I say I’m not blind to misogyny – I’d consider myself a feminist. But I was not prepared for the sheer amount of disrespect I would get online for not finding someone to my liking.

Read: Bad Sugar Daddies: How to Tell if a Sugar Daddy is Real Online

At first it was quite upsetting being called every obscenity under the sun for simply saying “no thank you” but now I just brush it off and hit the block button!

Where did you meet your sugar daddy?

I met my current sugar daddy online at Seeking.com. We connected over our mutual love of the artistic and creative industry. Our relationship is still developing, but he is a great friend and mentor.

I doubt our relationship will go much further than a friendship. That’s something I like because I’m not overly sexually attracted to men. I have expressed this clearly early on, but he’s accepting and we talk often.

Really this is the best sugar daddy relationship I have had – he is a kindred spirit.

Do you have any online dating tips for sugar babies?

I find that most of the decent sugar daddies want someone who can carry an intelligent conversation, so I’d add that to your profile if it’s not on there already. Even better if you can demonstrate it by stating some smart hobbies, checking your grammar, and just generally writing well.

Read: 9 Sugar Baby Bio Examples and a Foolproof Formula

Of course, a cute picture or two doesn’t hurt your odds. But pick the right ones to attract the kind of sugar daddy you want. For example, if you want a gentleman, don’t go for anything too revealing (save those for later on in the relationship). But if you want a bad boy type then by all mean get your cleavage all up in them photos.

You don’t have to show all of you in the photos. But emphasise the traits that will appeal – or not appeal – to certain Sugar Daddies. I made sure it was clear I was a redhead sugar baby.

Read: How to Take Sugar Baby Profile Pictures that Attract Sugar Daddies

Try to be as honest as possible on your profile. Be up front so no one’s time is wasted when you realize after ten messages and a date that it won’t work out. Lies will only come back to bite you in the ass!

What’s your favorite thing about being a sugar baby?

While I would obviously say that the gifts and money are a definite plus of being a sugar baby, it wouldn’t be my top reason.

Read: Should I Be a Sugar Baby? 12 Pros and Cons

I think the world experience I have gained from speaking to people, trying new things with them and traveling to new places far outweighs the monetary value of the gifts they give. Being a sugar baby has transformed me into a more mature, worldly person.

How do you keep a sugar relationship spicy?

This strongly depends on the sugar daddy. I think the good thing about all my sugar relationships was that they were never intended to last. So when either a sugar daddy or I was fed up then we would go our separate ways.

However, I always find trying something neither of you have ever done before keeps things interesting.

Read: Sugar Daddy Date Ideas: 18 Things to Do With Your Sugar Daddy

Trying new things often rekindles the passion/humor/enjoyment in the relationship. These don’t necessarily have to be sexual – never been skydiving? Try it out together. Never baked a certain desert? Try baking it together and see what happens.

What advice would you give aspiring sugar babies?

Don’t get put off by what you think other people will say. Most SD/SB relationships are very discreet and no one ever need know.

Read: Secret Sugar Baby 101: How to Hide Being a Sugar Baby

Also, be your own person and don’t get discouraged if some sugar daddies don’t like that. Eventually you will find one who loves you for it.

Just remember: The most important thing is to stay true to what you are looking for! You’ll actually find a better arrangement – one that actually suits you and meets your needs – this way.

Never settle for a sugar daddy who isn’t doing what’s right for you. Sugar relationships are built on a mutually beneficial arrangement so don’t do everything for someone who does nothing in return.

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