A Texas Sugar Baby Busts One Big Myth about Sugar Daddies

Hi there! My name is Shae! I’m a Texas sugar baby and a Massage Therapy student. I hail from a small, insignificant town in big Texas.

If you passed me on the street you wouldn’t think I spent half of my time dressing up to be someone’s arm candy in order to pay my rent and buy designer purses that usually end up being paraded in front of snotty prim and proper cousins. (You know the type).

It’s a little hard coming up with a valid reason on how I could afford such luxuries while waitressing at a small family owned restaurant, but it’s worth it. All in all I’m pretty much a normal girl with a not so normal “second life”.

Why Did You Become a Texas Sugar Baby?

Honestly, as bratty as it sounds, I just wasn’t happy with such a mundane lifestyle. I wanted luxury. I wanted to strut around in a gorgeous pair of Jimmy Choo shoes as I made men weak in the knees at just the sight of me. (A little dramatic, but kind of accurate).

I just didn’t want to be another girl in the same small town with the exact same story as everyone else. No, I wanted excitement. And I wanted to see places people in my town had probably never even heard of.

What do you wish you’d known when you were first starting out?

When I first entered the sugar baby world, I was terrified I would only be going on dates with old, perverted, wrinkly men. You see sugar daddies on TV and they always depict a young, busty blonde with some old, half-dead, millionaire (Like Hugh Hefner and his Bunnies).

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I was paranoid someone from my normal life would see me and wonder what I was doing on a date with someone who looked like my grandpa.

But, in reality, men of all ages participate in this lifestyle. I’ve gone on dates with gorgeous middle aged men who looked like they just stepped off the set of some modeling gig. Then again, I’ve also been out with the average Joe who could be another one of your next door neighbors.

Older men aren’t the only ones who like the SB/SD lifestyle.

Where Does a Texas Sugar Baby Meet a Sugar Daddy?

I first started out on Sugarbaby4u.com but I eventually found and used Seeking.com (They also have an app for iPhone).

That’s where I found my current sugar daddy. A few days after I joined Seeking, I got a notification on my phone from a guy who messaged me. Of course the first thing I did was check out his profile and read his About Me and What I’m looking for section.

Next was obviously checking out his photos. He was average looking, his profile listed he was in his 30’s and was divorced. One of the photos showed him on a boat, the next was him lounging on a chair at the beach. In his first message he was very direct and straight forward, offering $3,000 and month with shopping included, he wanted something long term and wasn’t into any games.

He wasn’t looking for arm candy. He wanted a companion – who, of course, still had to be good looking). I was impressed with his straightforwardness. I agreed to meet him in a public place. He was charming, funny, and extremely charismatic and I realized this would actually be something to look forward to.

What’s your favorite thing about being a sugar baby?

The experience. When I first dove into the sugar baby world, I thought it was just going to be one of those things where I would go to some fancy wine tasting event hosted by a corporate company with an old guy, and then shortly be dropped off at store to shop at my heart’s content while blowing someone else’s money.

In reality people NEED companionship. Yhey want someone to talk to, to confide in, listen to their stories. Yes, sometimes you go to special events. And your purpose is to look extra pretty on their arm. And yes, you do get to go shopping. But it’s WHO you do it with, and who you spend the experience with that matters.

How do you keep your sugar relationship spicy/fun/interesting?

Not all dates have to be on an exotic island while you’re parading around in a non existent bikini to count as spicy or sexy. I’ve learned that a lot of men find it extremely sexy when a girl can keep up at a Football/Basketball/Baseball game.

Even as a sports fan and a Texas sugar baby, I don’t know every defensive player on the Texan’s football team. But if you can enjoy yourself and have general knowledge of what’s going on men tend to really appreciate it.

Being versatile is always key. I can slip on a cocktail dress and rock a pair of stilettos just as easily as I can throw on a pair of hiking boots and hit some trails. Even the simple things can count as interesting in a relationship.

What advice would you give aspiring sugar babies?

Safety, safety, safety. ALWAYS play it safe. When chatting up a potential SD/SM move to a site where you can chat face to face, like Skype.

If you don’t like corresponding over email, chatting, or texting, then at least make sure you meet someone in a very public place. If you feel like something’s just not right, don’t be afraid to immediately end the date. Don’t even feel like you have to apologize or give a reason. (I’ve personally had to do it once.)

Even after you’ve been talking with a sugar daddy for a while and have gone on plenty of dates, tell someone where you’ll be and let them know you’ll be checking in. I know sometimes it’s awkward telling friends and family about what you’re doing. But finding at least one person you can confide in is a must.

Editor’s Note: Totally second this – staying safe is the most important thing. Here are some articles on making sure your precious self stays safe while sugar dating:

Also, save your money. Especially if you decide being a sugar baby will be your only sense of income, I know that Givenchy bag would look super cute with those new Louboutins. But it’s really going to suck when you have to sell it on eBay to make your rent if your Sugar Baby life ends up not working out.

And a Few More Sugar Tips…

Be yourself. Playing your alter ego can be really fun, and you can be your ‘prettier self’ if you want. But, being someone you aren’t can be exhausting.

I’m a Texas sugar baby, which translates to being a girl with a thick Texan drawl and a laugh that may be a little too loud sometimes. But that’s part of who I am and part of my charm. I don’t pretend to be a girl who went to Princeton and grew up attending black tie events as my father discussed politics with other high class men.

That’s just not me, and pretending to be that girl could be hard, especially when I slip up and have to explain where that accent came from or how I just out drank you while you were still sipping your Brandy.

People like individuality, no one wants to meet the same girl over and over again.

Also, it’s okay to be picky. If you decide you don’t like a guy, feel free to wait for a better one.

And last but not least, dress for the part you want. You can’t expect to be flown off to Italy for the week if you show up on your first date in yoga pants and flip flops. Get your nails done, buy a cute outfit, take the time to fix your hair. It’s worth it, I promise.

Most importantly have fun, you only get to live this life one time. Do what (or who) makes you happy.