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What to Do When Your Sugar Daddy Is Too Busy For You

There comes a time in every sugar baby’s life where the once ever-interested sugar daddy becomes really, really busy. Busy with everything else but you.

Leading you to ask yourself – and Google – some very uncomfortable questions, like:

  • Why is my sugar daddy ignoring me?
  • Is he busy or not interested?
  • What to do when your sugar daddy is ignoring you?

It’s not a fun period. At all. The worst thing about this is that oftentimes, it comes out of the blue. Everything will be going great with your sugar daddy. It’s been months in and you two have worked out the ideal scheduling for each other and enjoy each others companionship. You locked down the perfect sugar daddy and all seems great in paradise.

The last date went great but then, on this date you’re asking yourself if he’s acting a little odd, like he’s not himself and distancing himself from you. And then maybe you two don’t even make it to that next date and he starts replying to your texts slower than usual and changing scheduled dates last minute.

What do you do? Well, it depends. But here’s what I’ve learned from dealing with busier-than-thou sugar daddies for years!

Why Is My Sugar Daddy Ignoring Me?

The very first, almost instinctual reaction will be to panic. Your mind WILL start racing and start to assume things, “Has he lost interest in me?” “Is this arrangement coming to an end?” “Am I asking too much out of him?” and a whole host of self-critical, doubt-filled, panicky and unhelpful questions.

It’s perfectly fine to have these thoughts. It’s normal. You’re depending on an allowance from him to get yourself by and it’s a little scary when the stability is threatened.

But rest assured, there are many valid reasons why a sugar daddy may seem to be ignoring you by leaving your messages on read and not texting you as often as he used to.

Here are a couple of the most common reasons why your sugar daddy is ignoring you.

It May Be Over

Let’s start with the most dramatic: there is the possibility that he wants to call it off. This is especially likely to be the case if it’s a relatively new sugar relationship and you both don’t have too much invested in it.

For a longer sugar relationship, it’s more rare for a sugar daddy to become a poof daddy. But it does happen.

Read: Sugar Daddy Ghosting You? Here’s How to Deal with a Poof Daddy

Usually, though, when the end of an arrangement is coming, you’ll know. But then again, I’ve also had experiences where my sugar daddy poof-ed and months later I get a surprise text from them!

To find out whether it may be the end of the road, shoot your daddy a text at the end of a week and ask how everything is going, gauge it from there, does he say “Busy week, let’s talk next week” or does he give you the cold shoulder? The latter means it may be over.

He’s Found Another Sugar Baby

If it’s a relatively new sugar relationship and you’ve been doing a Pay Per Meet arrangement, it can also be that he was pursuing a couple relationships with potential sugar babies and have decided to get more serious with someone else.

It would be gentlemanly to give you a heads up and some closure. But if he is an emotionally immature sugar daddy or averse to confrontation, he may just choose to pull a poof daddy.

It’s Too Intense

Have a quick think about the sugar relationship so far. Have you seen each other multiple times a week? Are you leaving things at his place? Talking on the phone several times a day? Whispering lots of sweet nothings in each other’s ears?

It could be that he just needs space. The beginning phase of a sugar relationship – or any relationship, for that matter – can get very intimate, very hot and heavy quickly. It could just be a matter of your sugar daddy pulling back to resume his normal affairs and have a break from the intensity of attraction hormones.

He Might Be Angry with You

Maybe there was a recent disagreement or argument between you and your sugar daddy. Or perhaps you did something to offend him, whether knowingly or not. And maybe he is still nursing hurt, angry feelings toward you.

If that’s the case, how do you apologize to your sugar daddy? Genuinely, as you would to anyone else. If there’s an incident you can think of, you can ask him to talk for bit and gently bring it up.

He’s Just Busy

Last but not least, your sugar daddy may not be intentionally ignoring you at all. He might just be genuinely busy. This is the best case scenario out of all the possible reasons why a sugar daddy may be ignoring you. But that doesn’t make it easy to deal with. Here’s what to do.

What to Do When a Sugar Daddy is Too Busy?

If you ask him about it, he’ll most likely apologize and say he’s “busy with work” and either go in-depth or not.

Either way, whatever explanation or excuse he gives you, the best thing for you to do is to keep calm and carry on.

Keep Calm and Sugar On

Be an understanding sugar baby (or at least show the appearance of being one). And that means to just believe him and tell him you understand. It also doesn’t hurt to ask him if there’s anything you can do to help.

Don’t Get Confrontational

What you shouldn’t do is accuse him of lying, ask why or make it about you. The last thing the arrangement needs is drama, especially when your daddy is busy enough that he can step away from you any time. Pushing him into a corner when he already has a lot on his plate is pretty much guaranteed to backfire.

Give him the space he needs, trust that you are on his mind and he will come around.

Editor’s note: Honestly, we think trust is great but planning is even better. This is why we absolutely advise all sugar babies to save up an emergency fund, even starting from the first allowance check. Having a little nest cushion to fall back on definitely alleviates the stress you feel from potentially losing a sugar daddy.

Another smart but often overlooked tip is to always be on the hunt. It can seem pointless, especially if you’ve been with a sugar daddy who doesn’t seem like he’s going anywhere soon – but in cases like this, it really helps to know you have options.

It Depends on the Allowance

Your sugar daddy getting really, really busy is one thing – but what about the allowance? There’s a big difference between being with a sugar daddy who’s busy and still providing you an allowance and one that’s busy and not taking care of you at all.

Scenario #1. Busy, but with allowance

Let’s say it’s been a few weeks maybe even a month and you two have only seen each other once or communicated a couple times but he’s still giving you an allowance.

Great! You know he is still hooked on you and thinking about your well being. It’s a kind gesture of him saying “I’m sorry that I’m so busy but I promise I will see you soon.”

Make sure to let him know that you appreciate him as well. Gauge how much communication he wants while he’s busy with his work. Maybe he wants to text and call more because he can’t meet up with you.

Maybe he’s too busy to check his phone and a simple “Hope your week is going well, been thinking about you and I hope you’re not working too hard!” is enough for him to look at his phone and have something to smile about.

In the case of a busy sugar daddy who’s still upholding his part of the deal – you should also be upholding yours by being a supportive, understanding, happy and fun sugar baby.

Scenario #2. Busy, and with no allowance

But what if it’s been weeks and he seems to be getting a little more distant and you’re not seeing an allowance.

Is he going to be a poof daddy and disappear? Does he want to end the arrangement? Does he just want space and to pick up from where you guys left off when he’s not busy? But how long would that be?

You feel your bank account hurting and you’re not sure if you should move on or be patient.

From personal experience, I would say be both. Be patient but always anticipate moving on.

Be patient and give him time, check up on him at the end of every week. But it also doesn’t hurt to start searching on sites again, that way you’re a little more financially steady if the arrangement does come to an end.

Editor’s note: It’s one thing to be busy and it’s quite another to completely bail on the sugar daddy side of the arrangement. Once a sugar daddy has claimed extreme busy-ness and stopped sending an allowance, your best bet is to dust yourself off and start looking for a new sugar daddy.

That doesn’t mean sending mean text messages to the one who got “really busy” or burning any bridges. Just gracefully back off and start focusing entirely on your needs. There’s no need to put yourself out for a sugar daddy who dropped you as soon as he got busy.

Scheduling – Or the Lack Thereof

So what can you do when your schedule frees up because your daddy is busy? I’ll have to change plans with my friends or even say no to things I’m invited for because I’ve already agreed to spend that day or time slot with my sugar daddy and then for them to cancel really sucks.

To prevent this from happening, it’s always good to reach out to your sugar daddy a few days ahead of time and ask if plans are still on but I’ve had many times where they’re so busy with work and their life that they will not know until the day of.

So you keep your schedule open for them and find out last minute of that day that they can not meet up. I’ve had times where he’ll say “let’s reschedule for next week” and I’ve had times where they say “I’ll be busy for a couple weeks”.

It’s unpredictable when he’ll be free again for you but just remember that he is a busy man with work and the best thing to do is to be polite, respectful and supportive. Inside you may be a little upset but do not reflect that upon him.

He’ll appreciate your patience and understanding more than you sending him a flurry of texts asking “why” and starting unnecessary drama.

Instead, use this time to be creative! You can plan something fun for the next date that you and your sugar daddy go on, things to see, restaurants he’s been meaning to try. Do you have homework to catch up on or do ahead of time? Hobbies you forgot because you’ve been so busy?

Either situation, look at it as a positive opportunity to better yourself or to realize that it’s time to move on and start fresh. And don’t stress – it causes wrinkles.

This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Noelle, aka The Different One. You can check out her sugar baby story here!

1 thought on “What to Do When Your Sugar Daddy Is Too Busy For You”

  1. THIS was the article for me! I do have questions pertaining to my situation though. I have yet to meet my SD. We’ve been chatting a few weeks. He told me off the bat, no money until we met, which I completely understood! Well, $2k later we still haven’t met due to some unavoidable things delaying him from coming home. My “issue” is, we’ve stopped talking as much and if I do NEED money for something, he isn’t as “happy” to send it. I have been reading articles here to keep him happy. He has promised a new home and car for me, which I believe he will follow through with. We agreed on an allowance to start this month, but I am not asking anymore about that until he does get home and we meet. He is retired though, so not a busy businessman. Should my thoughts of “I’m losing him…he is with someone else” be taken seriously? Should I just continue to be patient and supportive?


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