I always feel like I’ve hit the jackpot when I’ve locked down a good arrangement with a married sugar daddy. You get all the perks of an arrangement but with a sugar daddy who is less needy, less attached and even better – wanting zero drama.
Thanks to all this – at first, getting into an arrangement with a married sugar daddy seems like a breeze. But as easy as it may sound, there are some crucial differences between dating a single sugar daddy and a married one.
So in the interest of making this a stress-free, benefits-rich arrangement for you – let’s lay down some etiquette for dating a married daddy because it does ask for a little more rules than a regular sugar arrangement.
It goes without saying that the most important thing when you’re seeing a married daddy is discretion. Most likely he will not want his wife and family finding out about you and you do not want to get into a whirlwind of drama getting caught.
Keep in mind that the fallout from this sort of drama can be earth-shattering, life-altering huge. It’s not just the two of you who are in this so you both want to tread carefully and discreetly.
This absolute need for discretion will play out in a several ways so it’s good to talk about this beforehand, establish set rules and then abide by them. This might include, specific texting hours only when he’s at work. I’ve had one SD where he asked to communicate through Kik (texting app) so nothing would accidentally come up in his actual text messages. Sneaky right?
Also keep in mind that there will be minimal PDA and if the arrangement turns a little more intimate then hotel room meet ups will also become a new meeting place for dates.
A single sugar daddy might ask for different activities throughout the arrangement. Maybe one day he wants to go on a hike in the afternoon and the next date you two are at dinner and a movie, either way your schedule will fluctuate according to plans.
With a married daddy, he will have more commitments of spending time with his family, which means he’ll go back home after work and weekends will be unavailable. Which means your schedule will have to be available for him for weekday mornings and afternoons.
For some sugar babies, this set schedule is great since it allows you to plan your weeks in advance but for others, it may not be ideal since the range of activities and spontaneity is limited.
If you’re planning on dating a married sugar daddy, know that these arrangements come with compromises galore – on your part. They’re not all bad, of course – being with a married sugar daddy is usually drama free and less high maintenance. Plus, it allows you to clearly plan your schedule.
But at the same time, you won’t be able to reach out to him whenever you need to or want to as you may be able to do with a single sugar daddy. You may not be able to plan fun things to do together. And you need to have a very clear sense of boundaries, no matter how intimate the arrangement becomes.
A married daddy seeks an arrangement to get away from his boring cycle of his everyday family life, he wants to feel that new rush of a connection again and escape and get his mind off family things.
So don’t bring it up every time you’re with him!
That means avoiding questions about his home life like “tell me about your wife” or “how are your kids?” If he initiates the conversation about home life, that’s fine, find a positive way to respond, don’t dig too deep into it and change the conversation to something fun.
This really depends on the daddy, because they have another woman to go back to at the end of the day, he understands that he is not being exclusive and will allow you to have more than one daddy if you wish.
He could decide the opposite as well but I’ve noticed married daddies are more flexible and opened minded of not tying their sugar baby down to them.
From the sugar baby’s perspective, dating around either in relationships of your own or with other sugar daddies is definitely not a bad idea while you’re with a married sugar daddy, especially if he’s okay with it. Married sugar daddies are in no way a permanent fixture and they may have no choice but to back out of the arrangement at a moment’s notice so having backup options is just smart planning.
This could go either way, he could be very careful and discreet on how he spends money on you or not care at all. I’ve experienced both sides, keep in consideration he has a family to provide for, whether it be paying off the mortgage, family activities, kids education, groceries, etc.
His credit card accounts could be shared as well with his wife, which means he can’t put too many big purchases on things that will look too suspicious. I’ve also experienced the married daddy who wants to be a sugar daddy because he still has a disposable income after taking care of his family and did not have a wife that checked his phone or credit cards, he was free to make any purchases and was more flexible with a budget.
The best way is to communicate and figure out what situation they are in.
It’s already a complicated arrangement with a lot of rules and being very discreet and careful. If one day your married daddy poofs or tells you that the arrangement has to end, just agree and move on.
It’s a very unexpected way to have a sugar daddy one day and not the next. Keep in mind again it’s a complicated situation for him, maybe his wife was starting to suspect something, maybe he didn’t enjoy the idea of not being faithful anymore, maybe he just wanted a little spontaneity for a little bit.
A married daddy may move on quick, so don’t chase him or keep trying to get in contact thinking he’ll come back. Be thankful for the experience and it’s time for you to move on as well.
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Noelle, aka The Different One. You can check out her sugar baby story here!