Let’s face it: sugar dating is mostly unchartered territory. As such, there’s no official rulebook on how you should act if you want to be a successful sugar baby.
So it’s up to you to figure things out as you go along. And of course, the guidebook will differ for every sugar baby, depending on who you’re seeing, how long you’ve been seeing them and most importantly, you as a person.
It goes without saying that you should never try to totally change yourself for a sugar daddy you’re seeing. You can only keep up an act for so long and there’s always a sugar daddy out there for you so don’t settle.
However, having said that, there are definite Do’s and Don’t’s in the sugar world and sticking to the stuff that works and avoiding the stuff that sucks is a mighty smart way to navigate the sugar world as a newbie. This article is mostly focused on the Don’t side of the equation. So without further ado, here are 5 things you should never do as a sugar baby!
I tend to try my best to stick to this rule in general, even after months of dating, but I’d especially recommend sticking to this rule for the first few dates at least.
Think back to being out with friends and someone getting blackout drunk; it’s annoying, embarrassing and someone is always left looking after them all night or taking them home.
Now put yourself in your sugar daddy’s shoes – he’s brought you out for a nice dinner, treated you like a princess and given you an allowance. Don’t repay him by having way too much to drink at dinner and ruining the night.
I understand having a glass or two to calm your nerves but don’t overdo it. Having too much to drink will do nothing but make you louder, more obnoxious and way sloppier.
This is another one I think should not only be done at the start of an arrangement but should be continued throughout.
These men are looking for fun; an escape from their normal lives. They don’t want to be nagged about every little thing when they’re with you so try to keep things light and fun when you’re together. If you find that you’re fighting or not getting along, this probably isn’t the right guy for you.
A good way to avoid having to nag a sugar daddy is to put yourself in a position where you don’t have to rely on one sugar daddy. While I usually only have one sugar daddy at any given time, I like to also have a monthly arrangement as well.
When I lived in New York, I had a sugar daddy I met with once or twice a week who covered my rent and bills but I also met with a man in Dallas once a month. Both lasted over a year so I never felt too reliant on either man as I knew I wouldn’t be stuck.
As strange as it sounds, juggling multiple sugar daddies can also result in less stress since it takes the pressure and focus off just one arrangement.
This might be an obvious one but it’s a big no-no so it’s definitely worth mentioning. It doesn’t matter how pretty or sexy or fun you are – canceling a bunch of dates is just annoying, and most sugar daddies won’t have much patience for it.
Think of the kind of sugar daddies you’re going to be meeting – they’re successful businessmen, meaning they’re probably very busy. If they’ve set aside time to see you, honor that unless you have a genuine reason to cancel.
If you’re not sure that you can make it, tell him and say you’ll confirm with him closer to the time. He may not have the patience for this either but you’ll either need to start to commit or risk losing sugar daddies simply for being flaky.
Obviously money plays a part in the sugar world, but it’s never a good look to seem obsessed with it. Sugar daddies know they’re giving you an allowance, they know you need money for rent or student loans or bills and they know that your ideal date is probably a trip to Chanel.
They know all of this but they still don’t want to feel like money is your only motivation. They want to go on dates and have fun without feeling like you’re just going through the motions. There’s specific ways to ask for gifts or negotiate a better allowance without sounding greedy or demanding. You have to be careful how you broach subjects like that or it might put your sugar daddy off.
This might be another obvious one but again, it has to go in any ‘what not to do’ list! No man is going to want to seriously date a girl who’s sleeping with anyone and everyone. It doesn’t give a man anything to work for; it makes it way too easy for him.
If you sleep with a sugar daddy on the first date, they might not even want to take you on a second. If they do want to take you out again, they’re automatically going to assume you’re going to sleep with him again. I understand that it can be easy to get carried away – you’re on a date with a handsome, successful man, there’s good conversation and even better wine but I do recommend trying your best to hold off.
Personally, I’d require a minimum of 3-4 dates, although usually it is longer before I feel comfortable and ready. And of course, this is after an arrangement has been agreed upon – never before. This is also a good way to tell the genuine sugar daddies from the ‘Johns’, who are looking for sex and nothing more!
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Aly, aka The Travelholic Sugar Babe. You can check out her sugar baby story here!