It’s no secret that many sugar daddies are among an older generation. As a sugar baby, part of your job is to provide him companionship. It’s hard, though, when you have a huge, gaping spasm of an age gap between the both of you. What do you talk about? How do you behave? Will you have enough in common to form a connection?
Plenty of questions but also tons of benefits. Older sugar daddies tend to be well established, settled and drama-free as well as gentlemanly and cultured. There’s a lot to gain – as long as you keep some things in mind.
Here’s some must-know tips to help you be the best sugar baby you can be with a sugar daddy who’s much, much older than you!
The easiest first step is to find out what interests and hobbies you both share. This is one of the best ways to negate the age difference between you and your sugar daddy. So focus on what you two have in common!
Even the smallest things matter in relationships like these. Whether it be your shared love of hiking to your passion for good sushi, it’s super important to find a common ground to talk about.
In addition, if he has interests or hobbies that you’re not keen on but are interested in learning more about, never be afraid to ask him about them. In the best situation, that’s a new hobby you two can share together.
This is a bit unfortunate but better for you to know before you go into an arrangement with a large age gap. Here it is: You’ll want to stick to going to places that suit his age range, not yours.
That’s because socially, it’s more acceptable for someone younger to show up at a place meant for older people (like a gala, or a business party), versus someone older showing up at a younger area.
You can always look older by dressing the part and doing your makeup appropriately, but it’s hard for an older man to look younger. However, if you’re ever uncomfortable with a place that he suggests, say no. Your relationship is mutually beneficial, and that means that your feelings matter too.
The smartest thing you could do to prep yourself for an arrangement with a big age gap is to accept that there will be conflicts between your views.
If you’re lucky, your sugar daddy will agree with you on the things that matter to you. However, it’s not a surprise if your perspectives differ, whether it be political, social, economic, or more.
And that’s okay. It’s an arrangement, after all – you’re not marrying the man.
Unless it’s an absolute dealbreaker for either of you, it can be looked past by avoiding the topic or even learning why the other person has that perspective in the first place.
One very useful skill to have when you’re dating someone with a large age gap is knowing how to take criticism and judgement.
No matter what you do, there will alway be people out there who won’t be accepting of your relationship. From harsh words to judgmental looks from strangers, it’s crucial to know how to behave.
Never act brash in front of your sugar daddy. You are expected to be polite and poised when seen with him. If you’re offended by something that someone says or does, just take a deep breath and remember that they don’t understand the dynamics and hard work that goes into preserving a sugar relationship.
Be polite and let them know that you enjoy what you have and it works for you. (“It’s not for everyone.”) Ignore strangers that give you a look, because their opinions don’t matter anyways. All in all, just try to remain put together in all situations.
First of all, it’s important to talk about it if either of you feel like the age gap is a big deal. After that talk, though, move on. Yes, there will be challenges. Yes, there will be disagreements, even arguments.
But don’t always attribute that to the age gap. Talking about the age gap constantly, even in a positive or encouraging light, can still be detrimental to the relationship.
For example, if you keep telling him that his age doesn’t bother you, even when not asked about it, he may take it as a sign that it actually does bother you.
Is the age difference the cause of arguments and stress? Are you always fighting with your sugar daddy because he doesn’t understand you, or you don’t understand him? Know when to say goodbye and break up. If you’re not happy with him, and it’s causing you (or him) stress, it’s time to let go.
Sugar relationships are supposed to provide him stress-free comfort, and if it’s not working, it’s okay to let things go.
How do you deal with a sugar daddy who’s a lot older than you? Are there any tips you would like to share with us? Let us know in the comments down below!
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Candice, aka The Bay Area Sugar Baby. You can check out her sugar baby story here!