How to Get Really, Really Comfortable Asking for and Getting What You Want

By Caitlin


One of the biggest benefits to being a sugar baby is the fact that is comes with benefits – namely, monetary benefits.

But in order to get what you’re after, you’re going to have to ask for it.

And this is the part new sugar babies have the most difficulty with. Let’s face it – most of us aren’t used to being direct about what we want.

Maybe it’s our super-polite, overly politically-correct culture. Maybe it’s our good manners. Maybe it’s the way we were socialized to be modest, humble, inoffensive people.

Whatever it is, most of us have a tendency to politely wait – hoping we’ll be offered what we want. When directly asked, many of us have a tendency to approach the matter in roundabout ways….”Well, if it’s not too much trouble, could I possibly, maybe, if it’s okay with you, have insert-a-lower-than-what-you-really-want-number.”

If this is you, you’re not doing yourself any favors in the sugar game. After all, how is anyone supposed to give you what you want if they don’t know what it is?

Before you can start receiving what you want from your sugar daddy, you need to practice asking for it.

We highly recommend this exercise. It’s easy to do, completely free, and it’ll give you a chance to practice both asking for what you want and your phone manner. Plus, you’ll probably get a few laughs out of it, too.

Here’s how it goes…

Step 1. Sign up for a Sugar Daddy Site

Our favorite sugar daddy website for this exercise is Sugar Daddy for Me since they have an active chat function which allows you to communicate instantaneously and a lot of sugar daddies who use this method. Plus, the site is completely free for sugar babies.

Step 2. Get a Google Voice Account

A Google Voice account is free and an absolute MUST-have for sugar babies. We love this thing since it provides you with a free phone number that you can connect with your real phone to receive phone calls from potential sugar daddies without ever giving any of them your real phone number.

It also has a few useful functions like having the caller state their name (so you can keep track of who you’re talking to:)) when calling and a phone log where you can view all your voicemails, texts, and the whole call log.

Absolutely brilliant. And free 😉

Step 3. Scour for the Worst

This is very different from what you’d do when you’re actually looking for a sugar daddy. Instead of searching on the sugar daddy website for profiles that appeal to you, you want to seek out the profiles of men you’d never, ever consider for your sugar daddy.

Pick out a handful of these no-go-sugar-daddies and message the ones who are online. Chat with one for a little while and then ask him to call you on your Google voice number.

Step 4. Practice Asking

During the first few minutes of talking to this man who you wouldn’t consider for your sugar daddy, practice bringing up the topic of allowance casually, but firmly, and then practice asking for the amount you want.

At first this may be a bit unnerving but practice makes perfect. Remember to rinse and repeat ’til you’re comfortable asking for exactly what you want and you’re able to do it in a graceful, natural style of your own.

Once you’re a natural, you can start going after the potential sugar daddies you actually want – here’s a handy quick guide to help you streamline your sugar daddy search!

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Mya September 30, 2015

I can tell you have taken your own advice and used your extra time and investments into writing a How To on Suger Dating. May I say you are very talented as a writer and I would encourage you to write more books. You are a natural.
In fact, you have inspired me. I too am a writer, although I have no book to call my own, YET.
I have been looking for a topic to write on and I believe I have find it. My plan is to chronicle my journey in the Suger World. And then write a How To of sorts, like you. My mind is still formulating a game plan, but I just want to say thank you for being an inspiration.

    Adrienne March 10, 2019

    Mya, I agree with you and I am in the same boat. I’ve always wanted to write and this whole experience is so wild that it’s perfect fodder for an article/book.

    Hope to read your book one day 🙂

Mya September 30, 2015

And this article is BRILLIANT!

jackie June 21, 2016

How to answer a sugar if he ask you if you are dating

    Caitlin June 26, 2016

    Hi Jackie, well…are you dating? It really depends on what you want. Do you want to be dating him or would you like to keep him from thinking you are not too serious?

K July 25, 2017

How much should I charge for 3-4 hour dates not rushed and some adult fun?

Olifun March 19, 2018

I have been a SD for 5 years, and I had 4 successful SB situations. What you describe overall on your site for SB are very rich men seeking to give large amount of money to a girl. Most men are not that rich. In addition giving thousands to a girl is equivalent of hiring her, or having her on a retainer. It cannot nurture a relationship, it is more of an escort arrangement.

My SB liked me for me, what they get was independent from duration and frequency of our encounters. I never gave to anyone more than I was making myself. Some of the girls actually refused money because it make them feel low. they preferred a tank of gas, share groceries, or pay their phone bill. This is more realistic and fit many more peole than expecting $3000 per month.

lliane August 4, 2018

how do you know how much to ask for? whats my “with”?

Adura Ola's June 12, 2019

Hello am new here I need sugar daddy to take care of me

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