One of my favorite things about being part of the sugar world is getting to experience things that I would never be able to do on my own.
Thanks to this sugar journey, I’ve eaten in some of the most amazing restaurants, attended some incredible events and stayed in some absolutely stunning hotels.
However, a few years ago when I was just starting out, there were definitely times where I felt uncomfortable or out of my depth.
And if you’re there now, just know that it’s totally normal to be a little bit nervous when you’re starting something brand new but there’s a few things you might want to do to help ease any anxiety or nerves you might have…
The very first thing you can do to help ease the anxiety is to actually look up where you’re going. Getting an idea of what the place looks like helps solidify in your mind so it’s not some specter of a super fancy place that’s growing to intimidatingly fancier-than-thou proportions in your mind.
If it’s a restaurant you’ve never been to, look it up online. Make sure you know exactly where it is and I’ve always found that even seeing pictures of the dining room make me a little bit more comfortable. If you’re lucky, you’ll find pictures with actual people in it too so you get a sense of what you can wear to the venue.
Looking up the restaurant also lets you gauge just how fancy it is. You can also always rely on one thing to tell you just how fancy a restaurant is – the menu.
Any place your sugar daddy is bringing you to should be at least slightly more sophisticated than the Chipotle down the street anyway but the menu will help you determine just how fancy it is. The prices will obviously help but also the size of the menu as well as the size of the wine list.
Quick tip: Feel free to look up the items you don’t know on the menu (and even learn to pronounce everything the right way). It’s easy to do and it’ll give you a quick boost of confidence.
Yes, many of the places your sugar daddy is taking you to will be fancy. But hey, there’s no reason to be intimidated.
I mean, of course you’re not totally familiar with these venues – you’re a young student, after all. Nobody expects you to know everything. And you know what? Your sugar daddy will probably enjoy your genuine curiosity more than you knowing everything.
Plus, your sugar daddy will have experience at these kind of restaurants so it’ll be a chance for him to impress you.
As for all the stuff you don’t know – the waiter or sommelier will be well used to being asked questions regarding the food and wine menus respectively. Ask for a recommendation or if there’s any specials that week.
My biggest tip would be to step out of your comfort zone. Transform intimidation to curiosity and use it to experiment and learn. It’s easy to see steak or chicken on the menu and select something you think looks familiar to you but the food at restaurants like these is more of an experience than just a meal. They’ve been carefully constructed by incredible chefs so try something new and you might find yourself a whole new favorite dish!
If you really don’t feel comfortable ordering, particularly when it comes to wine, you can always defer to your sugar daddy. A man I was seeing for just over a year approximately two years ago had a passion for wine and the first trip we took was to Napa Valley. There’s some stunning vineyards and I really knew nothing about wine before I went there.
I can guarantee your sugar daddy won’t mind teaching you a thing or two and that particular sugar daddy definitely passed on his passion to me!
Once you have an idea of the calibre of restaurant you’re going to, you can pick out the perfect outfit. I generally stick to a simple yet sophisticated look – something along the lines of cigarette trousers and a cool printed shirt or a skirt with some sexy black opaque tights, not forgetting a killer pair of heels!
Personally, I always feel super confident getting my hair blown out so I always get one before a date. If you feel good about yourself, your confidence will seep through.
If it’s a big event where a gown is required or even if it’s a less formal event and you need a new dress, ask your sugar daddy. He won’t mind buying you a new dress for an event he’s bringing you to, especially a fancy one!
Thank god for the Internet, right? If it’s a charity fundraiser or a business event that he’s taking you too, just like you did with the restaurant, look it up online. Have a basic knowledge of the company or companies involved at the very least and you won’t look so out of your depth when you arrive.
Your sugar daddy will also appreciate the interest you’re taking and you’ll be able to hold your own in a conversation while you’re there.
Perhaps a slightly obvious tip is to make sure you absolutely do not have too much to drink while out with your sugar daddy, particularly at a high end venue. It’s never a good idea; your sugar daddy will only get angry, embarrassed or both.
Drunk people are usually loud and obnoxious and unless you’ve no interest in being invited back, I’d advise you to stay sober! It’s best to limit yourself to 3-4 drinks over the course of so many hours – a good rule of thumb to stick to is one drink per hour. This way you can still have a good time while still being able to engage in intelligent conversation.
Another important tip is not to sit on your phone all night, updating your Instagram story. It’s not good manners in any situation, no matter how tempted you are to show off to your friends! I know it can be tempting to document your evening, especially when going to fancy restaurants and events but try to be in the moment, and make your sugar daddy feel like you really want to be there.
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Aly, aka The Travelholic Sugar Babe. You can check out her sugar baby story here!