There’s a bunch of different types of men you’ll meet in the sugar world, and I’m sure there’s a lot of variety within each type. When I look back on the last four or so years I’ve spent in this world, I can pretty much narrow it down to six types of men you’ll come across on your search for the perfect sugar daddy.
This is the guy who’s going to want sex, sex and more sex. You might get a couple of decent messages from this guy but then it’ll be straight to sex. He’ll ask you what kind of toys you like or what your favorite position is. He’ll compliment your breasts in your profile picture instead of your eyes or your smile.
This is the kind of guy who is going to want to meet you in a hotel or have you come straight over to his place. He’s basically just looking for a regular prostitute and will always want to give you a ‘per meet’ allowance.
This guy just wants to use you as a plaything and unless all you’re looking for is sex, I’d advise you to steer clear!
This is the man who is usually experiencing some kind of trauma or difficulty in their life and is looking for some kind of escape. Typically, it’s a separation or a divorce with their wife or even a custody battle.
I was once seeing a man for a number of months who had just lost his wife about six months prior. We used to go for lunch once a week and we actually developed a real friendship.
This man will want to be able to unload his problems and feelings on to someone outside of the difficult situation he’s found himself in. He might want advice; he might not but mainly, he just wants someone who will listen to him.
Dates will be a way for him to escape issues at home so I’d definitely recommend keeping them fun and light hearted. This is not the place to vent your own issues. Listen to him and take his mind off it – that’s what he’s craving.
This man is also looking for an escape. He travels a ton, usually for work and wants a little company. He’s usually just bored or lonely and wants to spend some time with a beautiful woman without any stress. He usually wants a casual arrangement as opposed to something more serious.
I once had a long term arrangement with a man from North Carolina. He worked in the hotel business and spent about a third of his year in Texas. I would fly there once a month for 3-4 days and we would go to shows, go shopping and explore Dallas!
It was a lot of fun and men like this usually have a lot of money so you’ll be VIP all the way. They’re also typically busy with work during the day so it’s a perfect opportunity to sweetly ask if you can spend the day shopping or at a spa!
Then there’s the men who just wants to show you off. He’ll want to take you to events or fundraisers as the ultimate arm candy. Think renting a really hot trophy wife for the night!
Looks are obviously going to be important to this guy so unless you’re willing to go all out on your hair and makeup, this probably isn’t the sugar daddy for you.
The good news is that you’ll get a brand new outfit for any event you attend.
One of my best friends once dated a man who was on the board of a charity in New York. She used to go to these incredible events about once a month. She’d get all dolled up and he bought her some of the most beautiful gowns! One of them fell right around her birthday and she was gifted a beautiful Versace dress!!
While looks are important, fun and good conservation are important too. You need to be able to hold your own and whatever you do, don’t get too drunk or loud at these types of events. You’re there to accompany him; not embarrass him.
This is usually the kind of guy I look out for. The other types like the “Travel Buddy” or the “Show Off” will likely just want to meet once every month or two but this guy will want a more regular SD/SB relationship where you see each other once or twice a week.
This is a man looking to build a genuine relationship with you – going to dinner, shows and vacations. Of course he’ll want to have fun but this won’t be all it’s about for him. He’ll want to get to know you and show a real interest in your life. He’ll be happy to give you a monthly allowance and he’ll generally want to help you with things like rent or tuition.
These men aren’t looking to settle down with you and some of them may even be married but they will be looking for an arrangement that’s long term. You find a sugar daddy like this and you’ve hit the jackpot!
This man can be similar to the typical sugar daddy except this guy is looking for a real girlfriend or wife instead of just a sugar baby. This guy will be easy to spot from his profile as he’s usually quite open about wanting something serious.
When I first joined Seeking Arrangement, I got a couple of messages from men asking if I’d be interested in moving in with them, accompanying them as they travelled and staying at home with them when they weren’t.
One man in Florida offered me my own bedroom in his home and access to his cars if I moved down but unfortunately, it’s not exactly what I’ve ever been looking for! It didn’t take me long to add a disclaimer to my profile to let POT’s know this wasn’t for me but I have friends on Seeking Arrangement who still get similar messages.
As I said, it isn’t for me but to each their own and living like a princess isn’t the worst situation to find yourself in!
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Aly, aka The Travelholic Sugar Babe. You can check out her sugar baby story here!