The sugar baby allowance is a tricky thing. There are so many different factors that play into it and sugar allowances range from the hundreds to the tens of thousands.
And while if you were applying for a job in any other industry, you could simply do a Google search to see how others in your industry are being paid – you can’t exactly do that for a sugar baby allowance.
So how do you go about setting your sugar baby allowance?
We’re going to go over 3 factors that’ll help you figure out an appropriate range for you, but before we get to that…
First things first – there is a lot of confusion about what allowance actually is. Many new sugar babies fall into the trap of trying to determine how much allowance they’re “worth” based on things like their looks, their age, their body size, etc.
Seriously – don’t even go there.
A sugar baby’s allowance is not about how much you’re “worth.” YOU are priceless. There is no way to set a monetary value on yourself and your qualities so don’t even try.
Especially since trying to determine your “worth” is really beside the point.
You see, the sugar baby allowance is very simple. You’re not figuring out your “worth” – you’re simply setting a price for the time, attention, effort, and contribution that you’re willing to make to a sugar daddy’s life. The most important thing is finding the sweet spot monetary range that makes both of you happy.
Of course, this all varies from sugar daddy to sugar daddy and from sugar baby to sugar baby. Let’s take a look at a few factors that’ll help you find the sugar baby allowance that works for you (and your potential sugar daddy).
The biggest part of determining your sugar baby allowance is simply what you want. Every sugar baby has different goals and motivations so it’s important to know what you want from the get go.
Are you looking for a few hundred dollars of supplemental allowance every month? If so, you might not even need a full-time sugar daddy. You could do very well for yourself just going on dates – What’s Your Price is the best option for this. You pretty much set up a profile (it’s free for sugar babies) and “Generous Members” (aka, sugar daddies) will send you an offer of how much they’re willing to pay to go on a date with you. You can either name your own price or accept the offer. Voila – you just got paid for a date.
Are you looking for an allowance that covers your living expenses? This is what most sugar babies are looking for and these allowances typically range from around $1,000 to $5,000 per month. According to SeekingArrangement, the average Sugar Baby receives $3,000 in monthly allowance.
But don’t just take the usual average and run with it – the important thing is finding an allowance that works for you.
A good place to start is to calculate how much you need to live comfortably – your rent, your car payments, cell phone bills, and all your bills and living expenses. Now add to that an estimated cost of extra material comforts you’d like as well as a range of how much you’d like to save. And you should end up with a price range that suits you (a great way to do this is to take your living expenses and then double it :)).
Are you looking for MORE? You know what we mean by “more” – we’re talking about the holy grail of sugar baby allowances. You know, those $10,000 to $20,000 (or more) per month allowances we all secretly dream about. In case you’re wondering if they exist – yes, they do. But they’re seriously difficult to come by and they will take their sweet time in building up trust with you before they begin to shell out the sugar. Why? These few and rare sugar daddies have their pick of the barrel.
If you’re lucky enough to land a sugar daddy you like who has the income to fund a huge allowance – more power to you! But for most sugar babies, asking the average sugar daddy for an allowance of $10,000+ is not going to go down well. So if you’re an aspiring sugar baby – stick to finding a comfortable allowance that covers your living expenses plus some sugar 🙂
Note: It’s not a good idea to ask the average sugar daddy for an extravagant allowance – but that doesn’t mean you should be shy about asking for what you want. Remember that YOU set your allowance range. And keep in mind that most sugar daddies are shrewd businessmen – they will pay you less, if they think they can get away with it.
One of my sugar daddies actually commented a month or two into our relationship how he’s never agreed to a set allowance before with any of his sugar babies. And when he’d asked me what I wanted, he was sort of testing me. When I looked him point blank in the eye and stated, “$x,xxx.” He found himself agreeing simply because he liked my moxy.
So figure out how much you want (within a reasonable range) and don’t be shy about it.
Want to skip the whole awkward allowance talk? Sign up for free at SeekingArrangement – we love that it allows you to set your preferred allowance range on your profile as well as find out a potential sugar daddy’s range so you know if it’s compatible from the get go!
Most sugar daddies are wealthy men, but that doesn’t mean they have unlimited resources. Contrary to popular opinion – not every sugar daddy is a millionaire. And even if yours is – it doesn’t necessarily mean he has the disposable income and liquidity to give you a huge allowance.
He can be a multi-millionaire, but if his money is tied up in investments and he’s paying his kids’ college tuitions, he’s just not going to have that much leftover to spend on you (another reason we prefer single sugar daddies ;))
When deciding your allowance, you’ll also want to think about…location, location, location. The simple fact is that location plays a huge part in what you can ask for allowance. Some towns and small cities simply don’t have many sugar daddies who’re able to afford larger allowances so take into considering where you live – you’ll probably be able to negotiate a higher allowance in New York, NY than in Marfa, TX.
But a lower density of sugar daddies can also mean higher allowances. According to a survey by SeekingArrangement, here are where the highest-paid sugar babies live:
All in all, you’ll want to consider how much your sugar daddy can comfortably give when negotiating your allowance. To get an idea, start by doing some research on how much his occupation earns and whether he has children or other dependents. You’ll be in a better position to negotiate afterwards.
This one’s a biggie – especially since the terms differ so much from arrangement to arrangement. We like to draw out the terms based on several factors. Yours may vary, but here’s an idea of the factors we usually consider when negotiating allowance:
Got your allowance range but still feel weird asking for it? Learn how to get really, really comfortable asking for what you want 🙂
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