What is a Reasonable Sugar Baby Allowance to Ask For?

By Emma

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The sugar baby allowance is a tricky thing. There are so many different factors that play into it and sugar allowances range from the hundreds to the tens of thousands.

And while if you were applying for a job in any other industry, you could simply do a Google search to see how others in your industry are being paid – you can’t exactly do that for a sugar baby allowance.

So how do you go about setting your sugar baby allowance?

We’re going to go over 3 factors that’ll help you figure out an appropriate range for you, but before we get to that…

What Every Sugar Baby Should Know About Her Allowance

First things first – there is a lot of confusion about what allowance actually is. Many new sugar babies fall into the trap of trying to determine how much allowance they’re “worth” based on things like their looks, their age, their body size, etc.

Seriously – don’t even go there.

A sugar baby’s allowance is not about how much you’re “worth.” YOU are priceless. There is no way to set a monetary value on yourself and your qualities so don’t even try.

Especially since trying to determine your “worth” is really beside the point.

You see, the sugar baby allowance is very simple. You’re not figuring out your “worth” – you’re simply setting a price for the time, attention, effort, and contribution that you’re willing to make to a sugar daddy’s life. The most important thing is finding the sweet spot monetary range that makes both of you happy.

Of course, this all varies from sugar daddy to sugar daddy and from sugar baby to sugar baby. Let’s take a look at a few factors that’ll help you find the sugar baby allowance that works for you (and your potential sugar daddy).

The 3 Factors to Deciding Your Sugar Baby Allowance

1. How much do you want?

The biggest part of determining your sugar baby allowance is simply what you want. Every sugar baby has different goals and motivations so it’s important to know what you want from the get go.

Are you looking for a few hundred dollars of supplemental allowance every month? If so, you might not even need a full-time sugar daddy. You could do very well for yourself just going on dates – What’s Your Price is the best option for this.

You pretty much set up a profile (it’s free for sugar babies) and “Generous Members” (aka, sugar daddies) will send you an offer of how much they’re willing to pay to go on a date with you. You can either name your own price or accept the offer. Voila – you just got paid for a date.

Are you looking for an allowance that covers your living expenses? This is what most sugar babies are looking for and these allowances typically range from around $1,000 to $5,000 per month. According to SeekingArrangement, the average Sugar Baby receives $3,000 in monthly allowance.

But don’t just take the usual average and run with it – the important thing is finding an allowance that works for you.

A good place to start is to calculate how much you need to live comfortably – your rent, your car payments, cell phone bills, and all your bills and living expenses. Now add to that an estimated cost of extra material comforts you’d like as well as a range of how much you’d like to save.

And you should end up with a price range that suits you (a great way to do this is to take your living expenses and then double it :)).

Are you looking for MORE? You know what we mean by “more” – we’re talking about the holy grail of sugar baby allowances. You know, those $10,000 to $20,000 (or more) per month allowances we all secretly dream about. In case you’re wondering if they exist – yes, they do. But they’re seriously difficult to come by and they will take their sweet time in building up trust with you before they begin to shell out the sugar. Why? These few and rare sugar daddies have their pick of the barrel.

If you’re lucky enough to land a sugar daddy you like who has the income to fund a huge allowance – more power to you! But for most sugar babies, asking the average sugar daddy for an allowance of $10,000+ is not going to go down well. So if you’re an aspiring sugar baby – stick to finding a comfortable allowance that covers your living expenses plus some sugar 🙂

Note: It’s not a good idea to ask the average sugar daddy for an extravagant allowance – but that doesn’t mean you should be shy about asking for what you want. Remember that YOU set your allowance range. And keep in mind that most sugar daddies are shrewd businessmen – they will pay you less, if they think they can get away with it.

One of my sugar daddies actually commented a month or two into our relationship how he’s never agreed to a set allowance before with any of his sugar babies. And when he’d asked me what I wanted, he was sort of testing me. When I looked him point blank in the eye and stated, “$x,xxx.” He found himself agreeing simply because he liked my moxy.

So figure out how much you want (within a reasonable range) and don’t be shy about it.

Want to skip the whole awkward allowance talk? Sign up for free at SeekingArrangement – we love that it allows you to set your preferred allowance range on your profile as well as find out a potential sugar daddy’s range so you know if it’s compatible from the get go!

2. How much sugar can he give?

Most sugar daddies are wealthy men, but that doesn’t mean they have unlimited resources. Contrary to popular opinion – not every sugar daddy is a millionaire. And even if yours is – it doesn’t necessarily mean he has the disposable income and liquidity to give you a huge allowance.

He can be a multi-millionaire, but if his money is tied up in investments and he’s paying his kids’ college tuitions, he’s just not going to have that much leftover to spend on you (another reason we prefer single sugar daddies ;))

When deciding your allowance, you’ll also want to think about…location, location, location. The simple fact is that location plays a huge part in what you can ask for allowance. Some towns and small cities simply don’t have many sugar daddies who’re able to afford larger allowances so take into considering where you live – you’ll probably be able to negotiate a higher allowance in New York, NY than in Marfa, TX.

But a lower density of sugar daddies can also mean higher allowances. According to a survey by SeekingArrangement, here are where the highest-paid sugar babies live:

best cities to find a sugar daddy

All in all, you’ll want to consider how much your sugar daddy can comfortably give when negotiating your allowance. To get an idea, start by doing some research on how much his occupation earns and whether he has children or other dependents. You’ll be in a better position to negotiate afterwards.

3. What are the terms of the arrangement?

This one’s a biggie – especially since the terms differ so much from arrangement to arrangement. We like to draw out the terms based on several factors. Yours may vary, but here’s an idea of the factors we usually consider when negotiating allowance:

  • Time. How often will you meet – once a week? once a month? thrice a week? Basically – how much time will your sugar relationship take up? The more time, the more allowance.
  • The Nature of Time Spent Together. If he wants you to travel with him or spend full night and weekends together – anything that requires a longer time commitment – the allowance should be larger than it would be for in-town date nights out.
  • Exclusivity. Are you expected to not date other men or sugar daddies during your arrangement? For us, exclusivity also warrants a higher allowance.
  • Other expenses. Do you have to travel to see him? Will you be expected to dress up in clothes you’ll have to shop for? These additional sugar expenses should be covered by the sugar daddy on top of your allowance.

Got your allowance range but still feel weird asking for it? Learn how to get really, really comfortable asking for what you want 🙂

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(97) comments

brett pinson July 17, 2016

This data is noncense.
Most sugarbabies do not bring enough to the table to justify the allowances suggested here.
Remember the average rate on humaniplex for a session with an extremely attractive college age girl is $300
and on The Erotic Review you can get a session with a girl who looks like a super model for $400, than common sense dictates
that $5000 a month is not a reasonable market rate for a sugarbaby. And let’s be honest, the number of guys who can pay 60K annually on an aftertax basis (meaning 120K annually of there income) is a very small fraction of the population.
So ladies if you want to have some fun and make a few extra bucks as a sugarbaby don’t go for the wind wall.
You won’t get far.

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    Caitlin August 1, 2016

    Hi Brett, thanks for your opinion on this topic. But in our experience, the data is far from “nonsense.” Sugar dating is not as simple as an hourly pay-for-play – the best sugar babies are trusted confidantes and companions and provide emotional benefits that go beyond a physical “session.” In many ways, SBs are like drama-free girlfriends for very busy and successful men.
    This group of men may not be plentiful especially in certain areas but they are not a rarity in cosmopolitan places like NYC and the Bay Area and are often more than willing to spend a little extra for the comfort of getting what they want, which is usually not an escort.
    As with everything else in life, your opinion on the matter is reflective only of your own experiences. But it’s not wise to assume that your experience is everyone else’s. Thank you anyway for taking the time to comment.

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      Del September 21, 2016

      Hi Caitlan,

      My life experience being involved in this life style for nearly a decade (long before easy access to the SB market [as that’s truly what it is, a market, and it goes both ways] is factually inline with Brett’s perspective.

      As an experienced SD I’ve learned many lessons from my multitude of arrangements -from my longest arrangement of 3 years, another over 2 years, my migration to semester-long arrangements with attractive, fit, academically intelligent, open-minded women that are genuine in exploration and expanding their boundaries. Although I’ve also had countless short term arrangements weeding thru the fakes, professionals, wanna-be SB’s that are not realistic with their expectations, etc. which have all been ‘interesting’ experiences.

      Brett’s presentation of
      after-tax disposable income is precise and reasonably accurate. What he did not extend further is those eventual after tax dollars are before a SD spends one single dollar on his own lifestyle and commitments (child support, maintenance / alimony, living expenses, the costs SDs incur to be on sites that SBs don’t pay a membership fee 😆 etc.

      By good fortune I’ve traveled all over the world and I know the professional rates and variable quality in Amsterdam, São Paulo, Singapore, etc. And I also have first person experience in more than a half dozen states and Canada.

      Based on that experience only once did I provide an allowance of $500. And that was to a Harvard SB with the body of a Goddess. It was my folly to anticipate it would be better than my normal ‘first time’ cap / maximum of $300.

      That’s my experience.

      So to be fair to Brett, he’s provided a reasonably accurate non-commercial perspective. Brett, thank you for that.

      Sincerely,

      An experienced Sugar Daddy
      😉

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        Nelly December 9, 2016

        So $500 per meet up once a week is enough? What about $1000 per meet up let say meet up 2-3 times a week? I suppose there’s such thing as huge allowance of meeting up 2-3 times in a week?

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        Ally October 30, 2017

        Are you looking for another SB? Im available. 🙂

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          Michaelbryan December 6, 2017

          Here’s I am, i dont talk too much I just want to spoil you ..i have a busy schedule tho

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          Cami December 31, 2017

          Email me camelle1230@gmail.com

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        SBabyCo December 9, 2017

        As a current sugar baby in an arrangement, I can say hogwash.

        I’m in my mid 30s and receive over $3k/mo allowance, plus shopping, expenses, etc.

        AND I’m far from one of the big cities.

        So, there’s MY anecdotal evidence to add to the pile.

        In my opinion, y’all are just cheap.

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          David Woodward December 17, 2017

          Unfortunately, even after a six month arrangement with one, I have yet to be with an SB from SA that isn’t a SplendaBaby. Most of these girls string you along for a month or more, until you put your foot down that the relationship needs to go further, and then they say bye. I am not saying anyone is obligated to DO anything, but most of them know they aren’t going to do anything EVER. Even the addition of the key words does nothing to protect an SD from a liar. All SDs and SBs should expect to have a starting Allowance that is less than the SDs maximum, but at least equal to or more than the SBs minimum. Based on trust developed in the relationship it can grow from there. I would recommend SA have SBs put Starting Minimum Allowance and a Long-Term Allowance.

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          Erin Driskell December 22, 2017

          THANK YOU

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          Nina January 31, 2018

          How did you get into one of these arrangements ive been reading these forums and cant find a clear answer

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          Belle April 14, 2018

          What does your arrangements consist of that it’s that much money? -a new SB that’s curious

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          Ambur April 20, 2018

          Omg 😲 I Totally Agree With You On That Hun.

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      Megan November 8, 2016

      I agree with you. It’s a lot different having an hourly girl verses a woman at you beck and call and it’s a lot safer for a prominent man on many levels. I’ve been on receiving end and I wouldn’t take less then $500 a date. And would expect at least 4 monthly + shopping allowance to keep up on things that would please him. IE nails, hair ect most hourly girls have no commitment, see several guys a night bringing in usually around $1000 per night and hold no discretion or loyalty.

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        Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

        What about texting and email responses, whats reasonable. ? Whats not and compensation for this?

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          Jeremy October 16, 2017

          Good question!

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        Mel March 24, 2018

        Hello! How much time was a typical date night?

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        Watching You May 2, 2018

        It’s called undercover prostitution.

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      Elle January 5, 2017

      Yes SF and the Bay Area/Silicon Valley are hounding with men ready to spend!! I tell of all my tales — good and bad @ thesugarbabydiary.wordpress.com

      Thanks again for the helpful tips!! 🙂
      xo, E

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      David Woodward December 17, 2017

      Great, for NYC and the Bay, but let’s talk cities that aren’t million plus population with supermodel potentials flocking there to be discovered and millionaires to be had on every corner. Brett is right for the average SD. I would be willing to bet guys making seven figures don’t use SA.

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    Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

    I pay 1600 an month 4 dates a month 2 hours each session and spend another 400-600 a month on gifts, on assistance extras, car tires, repairs extra bills..,200 hr sex.. plus extras… is that your experiences or the norms.. shes a 21 year old student

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      Lulii January 16, 2017

      Lucky girl 🙂

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      Belinda December 16, 2017

      Are you looking for a sb in 2017

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      Belle April 14, 2018

      I’m new to being a SB is there a way you can give an insight to this lifestyle?

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      Aphri May 4, 2018

      Super Lucky i would give my SB the world for that treatment !

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    Brittany March 24, 2017

    The thing the SD is paying for is EXCLUSIVITY. That hot model is fucking upwards of 10 men a DAY for $400. A lot of men don’t want someone with that kind of traffic in their homes or beds. I’m not throwing and insults, that’s just the nature of prostitution.

    You want choices and to bang a new hottie every week? Okay, go see escorts for $350 a pop. The less men she’s sleeping with, the more she can charge. Low volume escorts charge thousands of dollars a night. To see maybe 5 guys a month.

    So to have the hot girl you want ALL to yourself? It costs. That’s how this game works. If I wanted to be a prostitute… I would be. I’d make WAY more money than what I get in allowance, but the difference is 1 I’m not risking stds and 2 I actually LIKE my SD.

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    Lsber July 7, 2018

    Brett u are just salt go to escort Pay for hour service..you didnt understand what a SB is! Bye fake!

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Kierra Johnson November 23, 2016

I want to meet a sugar daddy

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    Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

    Where do you live..and what do you seek in sdating

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      Ally October 30, 2017

      I live in the Houston area. Very willing to relocate.

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Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

Im a, sugar daddy sdating guy. I live in abq n.m. im retired. I just want sex once a week for two hour’s and pay about 400$ plus gifts each week, is that a fair offer. and texting and emails should I expect responses. Sometimes these messages are for additional dates, some dates no sex, just conversation to rant about my week. I could use help. Btw, most dates are just me giving her oral and she dosent really need to perform much, shes 21 student im 55 retired, shes an 8 when made up well.. input from women appreciated.. thanks sdady

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    Dee December 29, 2016

    Do you come to Canada? Lol That seems way more than reasonable. Maybe it’s different here lol

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    Mandy January 6, 2018

    that seems to be very reasonable! i like the upfront expectations & rates!!

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Elle January 5, 2017

Thanks for the helpful tips. I’ve written about the good and the bad experiences I’ve had as an SB… Stay strong! XOXO, E
https://thesugarbabydiary.wordpress.com

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Lover January 11, 2017

I was so suppressed about American SD.
Japanese SD will pay to SB, 100 to 300 for just spend time ( no sex).
With sex? Of course +++++
Mostly old SD want to a lot of sexual things and want to stay all day.
But don’t want to pay much … not nice

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Andrea April 2, 2017

I just talked to my first sugar daddy and we only text for now, but im wondering when should I get my allowance money or how long I should wait to ask for it eventhough I dont see him. Note: he was exclusivity. And he would see me whenever hes able to. I also want to know how to ask for my allowance without making him think im going only for the money. And finally, even though we dont see often I should still get my $3000 montly cause he mention he would give me 400$ for 4 days and 3000 per month.

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    James mark May 1, 2017

    You should just stop being a ho and maintain a healthy relationship with your boyfriend who loves you rather than blaming him saying it’s in his head when you know your deviant ways are to blame

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      john May 28, 2017

      Calm down buddy

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    DWornock June 13, 2017

    Do like a lawyer does. Say, “Bring my fee” or “Bring me the fee you promised.”

    Actually you shouldn’t have to ask. Sounds like he wants something for nothing but empty promises. Dump him and when he calls, don’t agree to meet and tell him I need a guy that can help will my expenses.

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Sugarbaby April 21, 2017

I have only had one sugar daddy and I have been talking with him for six months now and it’s been great ! I have had such a good experience with him. Originally we met , our first date being at the comedy show . I had told him our first date was to meet each other see if we got a long and then we would go time there . We went to dinner first then the comedy show . He walked me back to my car and I told him I wanted my 400 allowance . He looked confused and said there is no way I’m giving you 400 unless you come back to the hotel with me . I looked at him and said I have no problem with being intimate but I would need to be paid more for that . He asked how much and I looked straight at him and said $1000 but we would see each other once a week . And we’re not exclusive . He agreed that was fair and we have been seeing each other for about 4 hours each visit once a week . It’s been great ! We always grab something to eat and talk and of course spend a little time in the bedroom like any couple would . Just recently I changed the terms of our relationship to seeing each other only once a month because I didn’t really need all the Extra money anymore since he basically got me out of debt . Now I see him once a month for 4 hours and he gives me 1500 each month . I think it’s a great thing that we have .

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    ExploringSugarWorld May 9, 2017

    Sugarbaby,
    I’m curious as to how you met your one Sugar Daddy? I just thought negotiating your allowance was smart. it looks like you wasted no time…which is nice.

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    sugarbaby May 15, 2017

    To the comment above me wrote this year April 21. You are so lucky lol. I would love and desire a relationship or arrangement like that. I live in Las Vegas and it’s so hard to meet decent men with money who are generous. All I really want is good company, good sex time to time, and a nice amount of money monthly to supplement my income. I’m far from high maintenance. But I do like nice things. I also would like to own a car. Which is something I have never had. I guess for now I’m just wishful thinking. Ps are there still SD who date single mother SB?

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      Audrey January 31, 2018

      They do, I have never hidden the fact that I have kids. You have a choice to make though: married men typically have time during office hours, when your kids will typically be in school. Single SDs might get the idea that they will fix your life- be the responsible guy baby daddy was not and things like that. I tired of that and only date married men now.

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Anna May 23, 2017

I decided to try this out and my potential SD is wanting me to set up a checking and savings account at a bank that is nowhere near me and I don’t want to scare him away but how can I get him to send me money in another way?

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    Shelly August 30, 2017

    I realize this is several months old, but I certainly hope you did NOT go for that. Scammers are everywhere. Don’t worry about scaring anyone off. Your safety, financial and otherwise is far more important.

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    Kayla December 29, 2017

    Set up a PayPal account and have him wire you money that way.

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ian kerr May 23, 2017

I just give my sugar baby scraps of food is that okay?

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    Liz July 3, 2017

    😂😂😂😂😂😂 scraps of food

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Suky June 1, 2017

I want a sugar daddy

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Jack August 23, 2017

I have had three arrangements. Average length of time 3-4 times each. I started off the first one with a monthly allowance of $1800 – we met three times per month for a few hours. Unfortunately the SB got lazy in month 2 and just expected the cash, made excuses about catching up and it all got too hard. At one point she said to me “the money should tick away in the background and if we don’t see each for a month or two then that should be fine..” She was really naive.

The second arrangement was really nice. Same deal. It was easy and comfortable. Met at her place and the sex was incredible. She was a self-described nympho and it was like a scene out of a porn movie. After four months I called it quits – it was great but the emotional connection wasn’t developing at all and it started to feel a little awkward.

No 3. Amazing. This time $500 per meet. Great connection, sex and just so much fun. We meet when we want to and its really relaxed. I won’t do a monthly allowance again. I think the per meet allowance just makes everyone ‘work harder’in the arrangement. Interestingly we catch up a lot (probably 4-5 times pm) so it’s good for both of us. I think this one could last quite a while.

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Haley September 7, 2017

This may seem odd, and I’m not sure if sugar babying is the answer to my problem, but I thought I’d ask.

I want someone to just let me live with them so I don’t have to worry about money or anything ever again. But I don’t want to necessarily be emotionally attached to them. I’ll DO anything, whatever they want, I just want the security that comes with not having to worry about money. I don’t even want expensive things. I’d be content with the belongings I have now as long as I didn’t have to worry about my stability.

Preferably that means I wouldn’t work. I’m not a huge shopper or spender in general, and I have no friends, so I really wouldn’t be wanting or needing to spend a ton of money. I just want a place to live where I don’t have to worry about money and I’ll do whatever they want me to do to earn that.

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    Caitlin September 9, 2017

    Hi Haley, that’s a pretty unusual desire in the sugar world but doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there who’s looking for the same thing! The only thing we’d caution you to be wary about is that this sort of situation could be ideal with the right sugar daddy but with a predatory one – it could place you in a position of vulnerability where you’re completely dependent on them for your everyday living expenses as well as your housing. So if you do find a sugar daddy who wants the same thing, please make sure that they are a decent, considerate and trustworthy human being before moving in with him.

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    Tim November 23, 2017

    Haley the arrangement your looking for works well with the right combination, Caitil’s advice is good you have to make sure the man is decent and trust worthy and to do that would be to spend enough time with him to assure that before moving in too quickly.
    I had such similar arrangements as a single dad raising a couple of school age boys I had live in’s with the arrangements I would take care of them and they would help me out with the boys running errands and helping around the house etc.-From a mans side you have to make sure you get to know the person first to assure your not bringing drama in your house hold, my 1st arrangement was my learning experience she was drama with friends coming in and out and drugs that ended fast, the 2nd one lasted 2 years worked well she met someone her age and we hugged goodbye and they moved out of state,the 3rd one lasted 5 years went well until she started drinking wine every night and being drunk in front of my boys the sex was awesome but was not worth the drama when she drank,the 3rd lasted 4 years and is still going we are close friends, the sex is boring but she is a sweetheart that’s not the problem she loves to take care of me yet my boys are now young teenagers and she’s not good with older kids so we are about to part in a very friendly way I got her a good job and home I wanted to make sure she would be ok, that’s why I’m not ready for a relationship,my plan is to get the boys out of school and moved out then find a good woman to settle down with until then arrangements seem to be working best for me. my point Haley is it can work if the combination works for both parties.

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    SDhama November 27, 2017

    Hi Haley,

    Where do you live? I am in Chicago Land Area looking for a sugar baby arrangement. I am also open for a lining in relationship with no string attached. I will take care of all housing/food and other expenses.

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      Kiki December 18, 2017

      Are you still looking? I’m in Central Illinois, which isn’t far from you 😉

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        CIguy January 21, 2018

        I am Central Illinois too. reply this message to take this further.

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      Joanna January 12, 2018

      I am interested in meeting you
      I am
      Joanna

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Michelle September 23, 2017

How does finding a sugar daddy really work? I’m a college student who’s having financial difficulties and I stumbled upon this site and I’m curious on how this really works.

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michael September 26, 2017

Haley would be perfect for me.

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Ansh October 9, 2017

Hi, I am an Indian and earning close to $5000 per month in US. I have never done this thing but I wanna try. I am not that good looking with short height (5’2″). Can I get a sugarbaby in 1-1.5k per month. We can also live together if she is willing? If not, how much should I be spending to get that?

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    ally October 30, 2017

    I’m definitely looking for a new SD.

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      James July 19, 2018

      Hi, I’m in your area, and looking for a Sugarbaby, are you still available?

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Dede October 10, 2017

Hi,

I have been in contact with a SD who wants to meet for one hour a week each week. He wants to pay me an allowance of $100 each meeting. I was going to counter with $200. Is that too much? Too little. Going to be basically just sex each week for the hour.

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    laya October 10, 2017

    that sounds like it is too little for your time, in my opinion- your regular escort can command a higher rate than that, depending on location, physical and intellectual level. If that is your avenue, and props to you if it is, then you should seek out a more specific clientele. Being a sugar baby, as I see it, goes beyond just sex- again, that’s what escorts are for- you also provide companionship, the GFE, or anything else you agree upon. Personally, I wouldn’t continue negotiating with him seeing as he clearly doesn’t value your time enough. That is, of course, your call- but you should know what you are getting yourself into. Being an escort is totally fine if that is what you want, but you should be very careful of the legal implications- as I see it, sb’s are paid for their time, and because of the relationship they build with their sd’s. On the other hand, escorts get paid for physical favors only (which is illegal- no judgement, of course, but you MUST protect yourself- see next). Some high-end escorts get paid for their TIME (much like sb’s, but not quite), which is perfectly legal, and anything that happens between consenting adults is ok. Since you want to be an sb, I would assume you value yourself at or above the going rate for higher-end escorts, which can start at 300 an hour, but EXTREMELY rarely do they actually meet for one hour only- most have a 2-3h minimum (for most, it’s hardly worth it getting ready for just one hour of their time). My advice- respect yourself and you will command respect as such; higher rates come not only with looks, but with personality as well.

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      BigDaddy October 31, 2017

      Just stop giving that kind of advice. $100 is a lot to some girls. Not all SB’s are smoking hot models. I prefer the girl next door look and most of my SB’s have agreed to $200 or less per meeting. It helps that I gift often, respect them, show interest in their futures.

      The odds that you will find a guy that can drop $3000 a month on a SB are extremely slim. $36000 a year, after taxes is like $68000 in earnings that SD has to part with. That’s %20 of his income at $350K a year.

      Slim pickings ladies, very slim. It’s also very competitive. Men with that kind of scratch can have any woman they want. SB or not.

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    Tim November 23, 2017

    I had an arrangement like that for $100 for an hour or less it worked out great for both of us for several months until she moved out of state when she comes back in town she calls me to hookup again she was getting as much sexual out of it as I was and the extra money helped her out it all comes down to it has to be worth it for both parties or it will not work,she was a busy single mom in her mid 40’s this worked well for her.

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Jodi November 19, 2017

I make on average $20k a month as a sugar baby. Be cultured, refined, exquisite manners, well-read, have fine tastes in wine and classic tastes in clothing. Keep yourself well-presented, be a conversationalist that makes him think but also allows him to shine. Listen to his problems, ask his opinions, hold his hand, be soft and highly feminine, give him sensitivity, affection, compassion, and be the candy on his arm. I am told by my sugar daddies they’ve never been with a woman like me. I tell you, put yourself in his shoes, and imagine what he needs/wants from you and give him very fond memories of his fantasy come to life. His life is stressed. He needs/wants low drama (actually, they all like a little drama- it makes them feel needed and wanted… It’s a fine line to walk. Low drama – but have enough that he respects your boundaries and limits.) . Babies, hold yourself to a higher standard, if you want a higher standard man.

I never kiss on the first date, no sex for the first month until he proves to me he is a real gentleman. For me, the right man will thrill in the chase, he is looking for that release, I do a slow buildup and old slow, graceful unraveling.

I do not charge for the first date. Ever. It’s an interview. I’m interviewing him. Now babies here is the thing, you have to show up as exceedingly high value. Far Higher than his money he could spend/invest elsewhere. As a result, I’ve made half a million in sugaring in 2 years and my daddies are happy as clams. 🙂

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    Samantha December 12, 2017

    I need you to be my mentor!! What state do you live in? I am new to sugaring, you gave Great advice!!!! Are you open to mentoring?

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    Angel January 15, 2018

    Do you mentor? Can you give me some advice? I’m a first time SB.

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    shannon February 8, 2018

    Jodi Jodi Jodi, you are great will please be my mentor? Please can we chat? You have great advise!! Please email me.

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    Chloe March 7, 2018

    Excellent information- setting the standard high.

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    Bryan April 17, 2018

    What books have you read, and what are some wines I should taste?

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    Kiyjah April 26, 2018

    Jodi,
    Could you send me an email on mentoring. I’m a sugar baby I’m training.

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    BigDaddy August 29, 2018

    Bullcrap, there is no way with that attitude you are making that kind of scratch. Just not happening. More like, hey look at my fantasy life. Worship this SB Goddess. Such a load of horse puckey.

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Junneee12 December 5, 2017

Hi, I am a new SB and I’m talking to my first SD and he wants to meet 2 times a week. He wants to go out for dinner, kiss, cuddle and be intimate. I’m not sure if I should be setting a price per date or per month. Also if I should tell him this is my first time as a SB (he asked). Thank you!

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Alyx December 12, 2017

Hello ladies & gents! Your girl needs help!

So I have a prospective SD and from these comments, it seemed like $400 was a decent start. He asked me if I have a time expectation and I have no idea what to say! He’d like to meet 4-6 times a week which is fine, but I’m still in university so I obviously can’t afford to spend all day with someone. I just wanted to know what the norm is? 2h? 3h?

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chris December 13, 2017

It really depends on the situation. After I broke up with a girlfriend maybe 7 years ago I met a girl just a few blocks away. She would come over and bang me senseless for $100. Truth was I was MORE ATTRACTIVE than her. But she loved coming by twice a week for over a year and a half. It isn’t a lot of money but I’m a young attractive guy and its probably something she would have done anyways. We both had a lot of fun.

I can see girls getting 10k a month, especially if they have to do weird stuff with some 80 year old foreign dude. That’s way out of her character so the price should be higher. These guys are obviously desperate.

After my original accidental sugar relationship I dated another chick the old fashioned way for a year before we broke up. As soon as we did I put an add on craigslist, of all places, and met the most amazingly beautiful women. She was only a few years younger than me but she was smokin hot. I gave her $400 each time we hung out. I didn’t really bug her. She called me when she needed money which was only once or twice a month.

I’ve done similar arrangements much like this one several times now as well as dated girl normally since than.

There is a major disconnect when I see people on here suggesting a girl that takes $400 is sleeping with multiple guys per night. The girls I am hanging out with already have day time jobs/school etc. They are not trying to live off this income. Some of them have boyfriends or still live at home with their parents. Casual sex and a little $$ isn’t career choice. Its something to help relieve some of the bills or have extra spending money. Same goes for me, I don’t expect her to satisfy every need for friendship or intimacy. But it definitely adds some spice to my life without all the overhead.

I think there are a lot of predators out there so sugarbabies need to be careful. If you meet some old weirdo then charge them a fortune, sure go ahead if thats what your into. If you meet someone cool and friendly who is into normal stuff then be realistic. I’m a young attractive guy who makes 20k per month I don’t really have trouble meeting women and sleeping with them for free. I feel like I can pay most girls on sugar dating sites around $300-$400 per meet.

They are worth a million dollars to me and hopefully they appreciate and value me as well. I can be contacted at bizdeveloper@yahoo.com

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Henry December 14, 2017

I came to this blog because I just asked a potential SB her allowance if I flew her to the city she wanted to stay over Xmas and New Year, and I provide accommodation, food, joint expenses etc.

She asked for an allowancr on top of that for 1-2 montth stay, and she asked for 8,600,00 JPY /MONTH = $100K USD/MONTH

I felt somewhat offended, as this cannot in any reality be a genuine offer expectation? I feel like I made a genuine and generous offer, and got cat fished.

She was by no means a supermodel, and she’s flaked on me a couple of times (said she’d meet and “got busy”). I’m thinking is this any way this can be real?!?!?

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David Woodward December 17, 2017

It would be nice to see stats on all cities, or a few more normal cities.

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TJ December 18, 2017

Hi, I am wondering something and hoping someone can give me some answers. I am getting divorced and thinking about becoming an SB. I am not perfect. I am slightly overweight, however, I’m proportionate. Not massively fat or anything. I am in late 30’s, too, but look a bit younger. I’m not plastic. I’m real. Do I realistically have any chances to meet a nice SD? I don’t expect to get rich off anyone.

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    BigDaddy August 29, 2018

    You are not the ideal SB, older, less than perfect. Adjust your expectations accordingly. There are SD’s that are into older curvy mature women, just not the majority.

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Christina Stewart January 4, 2018

I’m new to SA and have had quite a few men who’ve expressed interest, asking me my desired monthly allowance and I don’t know what to say… I have never had a SD and I don’t know anyone who has ever been a SB… I have absolutely no knowledge of the sugar-dating world but I’m certain that I want to be apart of it. I want a sugar-sister, who would “coach” me and introduce me to sugar-dating. I live between Houston and San Antonio,Tx. Does anyone have any advice for me?

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Looking for honesty? January 4, 2018

I would love to get into this but I’m limited on time and am a married stay at home mom. All I want is to be able to afford to finish college so I can go to work. But I find by reading comments no guy/woman is looking for a mom who has limited time and no one likes honesty! If a woman came out and said no sex, limited time (am I’m a mom and wife), allowance is to cover college classes and can be paid right to the university do you think anyone would actually agree? NO! If a man/woman really wants honesty, time, and is only with working around the individuals schedule. Florida is becoming expensive and every job requires a degree just about. The jobs that don’t mean you are putting yourself in debt is you have kids because childcare for a month is more then a full time job at minimum wages pays. If only people really wanted honesty!

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Bluenish January 18, 2018

Hi . I’m still a newbie to this. Today I met a POT SD in seeking arrangement and we were texting for awhile. After that he was asking me what’s my expectations? So I answered him all of my expectations, among one of them is “Prefer those who take things slow.Don’t wanna rush for sex,its all about chemistry, just go with the flow”.
But then he replied he would only pay me allowance once we have sex.
So what do you think about this ?

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NeedHelp February 17, 2018

I’m looking for a sugar daddy. I’m trying to get caught up on medical bills for my daughter and need a new vehicle. I live in southeast Michigan. Terms are open to discussion 😊

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Susan March 4, 2018

Please I need a sugar daddy…. Am a single mother…. I live in Nigeria….. please I really need a mad that can care for me financially…

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Christopher March 12, 2018

heya i’m a sb from chicago, so i bet there’s some around then, once a week i suppose, date night, so far i am not seeing anyone but i do consider best as open relationship, i wont go far though so Ill take pub tran, Ill only be active for a few months in this field, maybe 3k per month like she say, all of it is material, no bills, so after three months and Im still running i wont be so scratching. No, it cant be lower, unless you actually get me the things on my “christmas wishlist” that never got fulfilled its March now. I’m just curious, and transvestite, even there curious. Its abnormal and awkward doing it in public but its still worth it for once.
I’m not sure how you contact me so christopher.mitchell.018@gmail.com
i like mentouring and discussion on intellective conversations like in chemistry, soso
Im 21, little bit of weight (5 ft 8 200lbs, low muscle mass)
Kisses <3

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Bob S. March 13, 2018

I had a SB that i paid roughly $1500 a month to but she was a solid 10. Supply and demand is key. I live in relatively small town so the price was lower than a place like NY.

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Tina March 20, 2018

I am a previous Sugar mamma turned Sugar Baby!!
I new at it but meet 2 wonderful men. I’d love to share my story! Thank you, Tina AKA Sexy Tee

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Terri April 23, 2018

I would love to be spoiled but only if your willing.

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Aly April 30, 2018

So he asked me he would like to see me once a week… How do i go about asking him an allowance? whats the proper way/question…

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SweetAsSugarDaddy May 7, 2018

My ten years of experience echoes what some of the men have posted here. I’ve heard stories of women offered thousands per month, but have never known one – in the SBs I’ve had and the ones I’ve talked to – who ever had a man come through with that kind of money on a regular basis. You can tell the men who have the experience because they can do the math. I also agree with the comments that men offering those kinds f allowance probably have less-than-savory reasons for it. Hell, think about it, if I guy can sugar one girl for $3000 or three girls for $1000, which do you think he’s more likely to do, given the male proclivity for screwing as many young hotties as possible?

I’ve had SBs that needed me to keep them above water financially while they finished school, and I’ve had SBs that simply liked older men and wanted to be able to date someone with the resources to do fun stuff and spoil them a little, so putting some kind of unrealistic impression out there In my opinion does a disservice to many generous men who can’t afford thousands and many enthusiastic young ladies who don’t need thousands.

Fact is, getting rent and utilities paid makes a huge difference in the average co-ed’s life. A $800-$1000 a month tax free allowance removes the need for 100+ hours of low wage work and replaces it with what should be a fun, low pressure and healthy relationship that doesn’t consume nearly as much time as working, thus allowing her to focus on academics, extracurriculars and generally just enjoying life.

And if you really want to put it into perspective, if that allowance allows a young lady to finish school, the future value of that investment is tremendous and alters the trajectory of her life in a very positive way. I know this for a fact since I’ve seen it firsthand repeatedly. I have remained friends with most of my former SBs and appreciate knowing that I made their lives better.

So, don’t downplay the value that a lot of good men can bring to the lives of young ladies. Set your expectations realistically. Thing long term and big picture. Forget the LV and such.

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Madyson May 31, 2018

I am also looking for a new SD or two, I live in Central Illinois.

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J June 5, 2018

WOW really ? Here’s an idea why don’t you get a God damn job and better your life your morals , your self esteem

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Justin July 28, 2018

I have often thought about seeking an arrangement here in Atlanta. I make great money, and I am really good looking, at least that is what I am often told. I would just need something that takes me away from the demands of life, since I don’t do things like smoke, drink, etc. The problem is, even younger women want to lock me down; I am working on that so that isn’t possible at this time. I would be willing to pay some hundreds here and there, but there would be rules that we both follow. Should I seek this?

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Justin July 28, 2018

I have been thinking about seeking this. I am a good looking guy in Atlanta. One problem I have is the younger women try to get me to settle down with them. It would be nice to have an understood arrangement. Should I seek it?

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Norahnicky August 31, 2018

Am Just a black African babe looking for a SD,aged 21,

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