What is a Reasonable Sugar Baby Allowance to Ask For?

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The sugar baby allowance is a tricky thing. There are so many different factors that play into it and sugar allowances range from the hundreds to the tens of thousands.

And while if you were applying for a job in any other industry, you could simply do a Google search to see how others in your industry are being paid – you can’t exactly do that for a sugar baby allowance.

So how do you go about setting your sugar baby allowance?

We’re going to go over 3 factors that’ll help you figure out an appropriate range for you, but before we get to that…

What Every Sugar Baby Should Know About Her Allowance

First things first – there is a lot of confusion about what allowance actually is. Many new sugar babies fall into the trap of trying to determine how much allowance they’re “worth” based on things like their looks, their age, their body size, etc.

Seriously – don’t even go there.

A sugar baby’s allowance is not about how much you’re “worth.” YOU are priceless. There is no way to set a monetary value on yourself and your qualities so don’t even try.

Especially since trying to determine your “worth” is really beside the point.

You see, the sugar baby allowance is very simple. You’re not figuring out your “worth” – you’re simply setting a price for the time, attention, effort, and contribution that you’re willing to make to a sugar daddy’s life. The most important thing is finding the sweet spot monetary range that makes both of you happy.

Of course, this all varies from sugar daddy to sugar daddy and from sugar baby to sugar baby. Let’s take a look at a few factors that’ll help you find the sugar baby allowance that works for you (and your potential sugar daddy).

The 3 Factors to Deciding Your Sugar Baby Allowance

1. How much do you want?

The biggest part of determining your sugar baby allowance is simply what you want. Every sugar baby has different goals and motivations so it’s important to know what you want from the get go.

Are you looking for a few hundred dollars of supplemental allowance every month? If so, you might not even need a full-time sugar daddy. You could do very well for yourself just going on dates – What’s Your Price is the best option for this. You pretty much set up a profile (it’s free for sugar babies) and “Generous Members” (aka, sugar daddies) will send you an offer of how much they’re willing to pay to go on a date with you. You can either name your own price or accept the offer. Voila – you just got paid for a date.

Are you looking for an allowance that covers your living expenses? This is what most sugar babies are looking for and these allowances typically range from around $1,000 to $5,000 per month. According to SeekingArrangement, the average Sugar Baby receives $3,000 in monthly allowance.

But don’t just take the usual average and run with it – the important thing is finding an allowance that works for you.

A good place to start is to calculate how much you need to live comfortably – your rent, your car payments, cell phone bills, and all your bills and living expenses. Now add to that an estimated cost of extra material comforts you’d like as well as a range of how much you’d like to save. And you should end up with a price range that suits you (a great way to do this is to take your living expenses and then double it :)).

Are you looking for MORE? You know what we mean by “more” – we’re talking about the holy grail of sugar baby allowances. You know, those $10,000 to $20,000 (or more) per month allowances we all secretly dream about. In case you’re wondering if they exist – yes, they do. But they’re seriously difficult to come by and they will take their sweet time in building up trust with you before they begin to shell out the sugar. Why? These few and rare sugar daddies have their pick of the barrel.

If you’re lucky enough to land a sugar daddy you like who has the income to fund a huge allowance – more power to you! But for most sugar babies, asking the average sugar daddy for an allowance of $10,000+ is not going to go down well. So if you’re an aspiring sugar baby – stick to finding a comfortable allowance that covers your living expenses plus some sugar 🙂

Note: It’s not a good idea to ask the average sugar daddy for an extravagant allowance – but that doesn’t mean you should be shy about asking for what you want. Remember that YOU set your allowance range. And keep in mind that most sugar daddies are shrewd businessmen – they will pay you less, if they think they can get away with it.

One of my sugar daddies actually commented a month or two into our relationship how he’s never agreed to a set allowance before with any of his sugar babies. And when he’d asked me what I wanted, he was sort of testing me. When I looked him point blank in the eye and stated, “$x,xxx.” He found himself agreeing simply because he liked my moxy.

So figure out how much you want (within a reasonable range) and don’t be shy about it.

Want to skip the whole awkward allowance talk? Sign up for free at SeekingArrangement – we love that it allows you to set your preferred allowance range on your profile as well as find out a potential sugar daddy’s range so you know if it’s compatible from the get go!

2. How much sugar can he give?

Most sugar daddies are wealthy men, but that doesn’t mean they have unlimited resources. Contrary to popular opinion – not every sugar daddy is a millionaire. And even if yours is – it doesn’t necessarily mean he has the disposable income and liquidity to give you a huge allowance.

He can be a multi-millionaire, but if his money is tied up in investments and he’s paying his kids’ college tuitions, he’s just not going to have that much leftover to spend on you (another reason we prefer single sugar daddies ;))

When deciding your allowance, you’ll also want to think about…location, location, location. The simple fact is that location plays a huge part in what you can ask for allowance. Some towns and small cities simply don’t have many sugar daddies who’re able to afford larger allowances so take into considering where you live – you’ll probably be able to negotiate a higher allowance in New York, NY than in Marfa, TX.

But a lower density of sugar daddies can also mean higher allowances. According to a survey by SeekingArrangement, here are where the highest-paid sugar babies live:

best cities to find a sugar daddy

All in all, you’ll want to consider how much your sugar daddy can comfortably give when negotiating your allowance. To get an idea, start by doing some research on how much his occupation earns and whether he has children or other dependents. You’ll be in a better position to negotiate afterwards.

3. What are the terms of the arrangement?

This one’s a biggie – especially since the terms differ so much from arrangement to arrangement. We like to draw out the terms based on several factors. Yours may vary, but here’s an idea of the factors we usually consider when negotiating allowance:

  • Time. How often will you meet – once a week? once a month? thrice a week? Basically – how much time will your sugar relationship take up? The more time, the more allowance.
  • The Nature of Time Spent Together. If he wants you to travel with him or spend full night and weekends together – anything that requires a longer time commitment – the allowance should be larger than it would be for in-town date nights out.
  • Exclusivity. Are you expected to not date other men or sugar daddies during your arrangement? For us, exclusivity also warrants a higher allowance.
  • Other expenses. Do you have to travel to see him? Will you be expected to dress up in clothes you’ll have to shop for? These additional sugar expenses should be covered by the sugar daddy on top of your allowance.

Got your allowance range but still feel weird asking for it? Learn how to get really, really comfortable asking for what you want 🙂

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(31) comments

brett pinson July 17, 2016

This data is noncense.
Most sugarbabies do not bring enough to the table to justify the allowances suggested here.
Remember the average rate on humaniplex for a session with an extremely attractive college age girl is $300
and on The Erotic Review you can get a session with a girl who looks like a super model for $400, than common sense dictates
that $5000 a month is not a reasonable market rate for a sugarbaby. And let’s be honest, the number of guys who can pay 60K annually on an aftertax basis (meaning 120K annually of there income) is a very small fraction of the population.
So ladies if you want to have some fun and make a few extra bucks as a sugarbaby don’t go for the wind wall.
You won’t get far.

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    Caitlin August 1, 2016

    Hi Brett, thanks for your opinion on this topic. But in our experience, the data is far from “nonsense.” Sugar dating is not as simple as an hourly pay-for-play – the best sugar babies are trusted confidantes and companions and provide emotional benefits that go beyond a physical “session.” In many ways, SBs are like drama-free girlfriends for very busy and successful men.
    This group of men may not be plentiful especially in certain areas but they are not a rarity in cosmopolitan places like NYC and the Bay Area and are often more than willing to spend a little extra for the comfort of getting what they want, which is usually not an escort.
    As with everything else in life, your opinion on the matter is reflective only of your own experiences. But it’s not wise to assume that your experience is everyone else’s. Thank you anyway for taking the time to comment.

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      Del September 21, 2016

      Hi Caitlan,

      My life experience being involved in this life style for nearly a decade (long before easy access to the SB market [as that’s truly what it is, a market, and it goes both ways] is factually inline with Brett’s perspective.

      As an experienced SD I’ve learned many lessons from my multitude of arrangements -from my longest arrangement of 3 years, another over 2 years, my migration to semester-long arrangements with attractive, fit, academically intelligent, open-minded women that are genuine in exploration and expanding their boundaries. Although I’ve also had countless short term arrangements weeding thru the fakes, professionals, wanna-be SB’s that are not realistic with their expectations, etc. which have all been ‘interesting’ experiences.

      Brett’s presentation of
      after-tax disposable income is precise and reasonably accurate. What he did not extend further is those eventual after tax dollars are before a SD spends one single dollar on his own lifestyle and commitments (child support, maintenance / alimony, living expenses, the costs SDs incur to be on sites that SBs don’t pay a membership fee 😆 etc.

      By good fortune I’ve traveled all over the world and I know the professional rates and variable quality in Amsterdam, São Paulo, Singapore, etc. And I also have first person experience in more than a half dozen states and Canada.

      Based on that experience only once did I provide an allowance of $500. And that was to a Harvard SB with the body of a Goddess. It was my folly to anticipate it would be better than my normal ‘first time’ cap / maximum of $300.

      That’s my experience.

      So to be fair to Brett, he’s provided a reasonably accurate non-commercial perspective. Brett, thank you for that.

      Sincerely,

      An experienced Sugar Daddy
      😉

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        Nelly December 9, 2016

        So $500 per meet up once a week is enough? What about $1000 per meet up let say meet up 2-3 times a week? I suppose there’s such thing as huge allowance of meeting up 2-3 times in a week?

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      Megan November 8, 2016

      I agree with you. It’s a lot different having an hourly girl verses a woman at you beck and call and it’s a lot safer for a prominent man on many levels. I’ve been on receiving end and I wouldn’t take less then $500 a date. And would expect at least 4 monthly + shopping allowance to keep up on things that would please him. IE nails, hair ect most hourly girls have no commitment, see several guys a night bringing in usually around $1000 per night and hold no discretion or loyalty.

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        Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

        What about texting and email responses, whats reasonable. ? Whats not and compensation for this?

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      Elle January 5, 2017

      Yes SF and the Bay Area/Silicon Valley are hounding with men ready to spend!! I tell of all my tales — good and bad @ thesugarbabydiary.wordpress.com

      Thanks again for the helpful tips!! 🙂
      xo, E

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    Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

    I pay 1600 an month 4 dates a month 2 hours each session and spend another 400-600 a month on gifts, on assistance extras, car tires, repairs extra bills..,200 hr sex.. plus extras… is that your experiences or the norms.. shes a 21 year old student

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      Lulii January 16, 2017

      Lucky girl 🙂

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    Brittany March 24, 2017

    The thing the SD is paying for is EXCLUSIVITY. That hot model is fucking upwards of 10 men a DAY for $400. A lot of men don’t want someone with that kind of traffic in their homes or beds. I’m not throwing and insults, that’s just the nature of prostitution.

    You want choices and to bang a new hottie every week? Okay, go see escorts for $350 a pop. The less men she’s sleeping with, the more she can charge. Low volume escorts charge thousands of dollars a night. To see maybe 5 guys a month.

    So to have the hot girl you want ALL to yourself? It costs. That’s how this game works. If I wanted to be a prostitute… I would be. I’d make WAY more money than what I get in allowance, but the difference is 1 I’m not risking stds and 2 I actually LIKE my SD.

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Kierra Johnson November 23, 2016

I want to meet a sugar daddy

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    Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

    Where do you live..and what do you seek in sdating

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Sdady Patrick December 21, 2016

Im a, sugar daddy sdating guy. I live in abq n.m. im retired. I just want sex once a week for two hour’s and pay about 400$ plus gifts each week, is that a fair offer. and texting and emails should I expect responses. Sometimes these messages are for additional dates, some dates no sex, just conversation to rant about my week. I could use help. Btw, most dates are just me giving her oral and she dosent really need to perform much, shes 21 student im 55 retired, shes an 8 when made up well.. input from women appreciated.. thanks sdady

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    Dee December 29, 2016

    Do you come to Canada? Lol That seems way more than reasonable. Maybe it’s different here lol

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Elle January 5, 2017

Thanks for the helpful tips. I’ve written about the good and the bad experiences I’ve had as an SB… Stay strong! XOXO, E
https://thesugarbabydiary.wordpress.com

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Lover January 11, 2017

I was so suppressed about American SD.
Japanese SD will pay to SB, 100 to 300 for just spend time ( no sex).
With sex? Of course +++++
Mostly old SD want to a lot of sexual things and want to stay all day.
But don’t want to pay much … not nice

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Andrea April 2, 2017

I just talked to my first sugar daddy and we only text for now, but im wondering when should I get my allowance money or how long I should wait to ask for it eventhough I dont see him. Note: he was exclusivity. And he would see me whenever hes able to. I also want to know how to ask for my allowance without making him think im going only for the money. And finally, even though we dont see often I should still get my $3000 montly cause he mention he would give me 400$ for 4 days and 3000 per month.

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    James mark May 1, 2017

    You should just stop being a ho and maintain a healthy relationship with your boyfriend who loves you rather than blaming him saying it’s in his head when you know your deviant ways are to blame

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      john May 28, 2017

      Calm down buddy

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    DWornock June 13, 2017

    Do like a lawyer does. Say, “Bring my fee” or “Bring me the fee you promised.”

    Actually you shouldn’t have to ask. Sounds like he wants something for nothing but empty promises. Dump him and when he calls, don’t agree to meet and tell him I need a guy that can help will my expenses.

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Sugarbaby April 21, 2017

I have only had one sugar daddy and I have been talking with him for six months now and it’s been great ! I have had such a good experience with him. Originally we met , our first date being at the comedy show . I had told him our first date was to meet each other see if we got a long and then we would go time there . We went to dinner first then the comedy show . He walked me back to my car and I told him I wanted my 400 allowance . He looked confused and said there is no way I’m giving you 400 unless you come back to the hotel with me . I looked at him and said I have no problem with being intimate but I would need to be paid more for that . He asked how much and I looked straight at him and said $1000 but we would see each other once a week . And we’re not exclusive . He agreed that was fair and we have been seeing each other for about 4 hours each visit once a week . It’s been great ! We always grab something to eat and talk and of course spend a little time in the bedroom like any couple would . Just recently I changed the terms of our relationship to seeing each other only once a month because I didn’t really need all the Extra money anymore since he basically got me out of debt . Now I see him once a month for 4 hours and he gives me 1500 each month . I think it’s a great thing that we have .

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    ExploringSugarWorld May 9, 2017

    Sugarbaby,
    I’m curious as to how you met your one Sugar Daddy? I just thought negotiating your allowance was smart. it looks like you wasted no time…which is nice.

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    sugarbaby May 15, 2017

    To the comment above me wrote this year April 21. You are so lucky lol. I would love and desire a relationship or arrangement like that. I live in Las Vegas and it’s so hard to meet decent men with money who are generous. All I really want is good company, good sex time to time, and a nice amount of money monthly to supplement my income. I’m far from high maintenance. But I do like nice things. I also would like to own a car. Which is something I have never had. I guess for now I’m just wishful thinking. Ps are there still SD who date single mother SB?

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Anna May 23, 2017

I decided to try this out and my potential SD is wanting me to set up a checking and savings account at a bank that is nowhere near me and I don’t want to scare him away but how can I get him to send me money in another way?

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    Shelly August 30, 2017

    I realize this is several months old, but I certainly hope you did NOT go for that. Scammers are everywhere. Don’t worry about scaring anyone off. Your safety, financial and otherwise is far more important.

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ian kerr May 23, 2017

I just give my sugar baby scraps of food is that okay?

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    Liz July 3, 2017

    😂😂😂😂😂😂 scraps of food

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Suky June 1, 2017

I want a sugar daddy

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Jack August 23, 2017

I have had three arrangements. Average length of time 3-4 times each. I started off the first one with a monthly allowance of $1800 – we met three times per month for a few hours. Unfortunately the SB got lazy in month 2 and just expected the cash, made excuses about catching up and it all got too hard. At one point she said to me “the money should tick away in the background and if we don’t see each for a month or two then that should be fine..” She was really naive.

The second arrangement was really nice. Same deal. It was easy and comfortable. Met at her place and the sex was incredible. She was a self-described nympho and it was like a scene out of a porn movie. After four months I called it quits – it was great but the emotional connection wasn’t developing at all and it started to feel a little awkward.

No 3. Amazing. This time $500 per meet. Great connection, sex and just so much fun. We meet when we want to and its really relaxed. I won’t do a monthly allowance again. I think the per meet allowance just makes everyone ‘work harder’in the arrangement. Interestingly we catch up a lot (probably 4-5 times pm) so it’s good for both of us. I think this one could last quite a while.

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Haley September 7, 2017

This may seem odd, and I’m not sure if sugar babying is the answer to my problem, but I thought I’d ask.

I want someone to just let me live with them so I don’t have to worry about money or anything ever again. But I don’t want to necessarily be emotionally attached to them. I’ll DO anything, whatever they want, I just want the security that comes with not having to worry about money. I don’t even want expensive things. I’d be content with the belongings I have now as long as I didn’t have to worry about my stability.

Preferably that means I wouldn’t work. I’m not a huge shopper or spender in general, and I have no friends, so I really wouldn’t be wanting or needing to spend a ton of money. I just want a place to live where I don’t have to worry about money and I’ll do whatever they want me to do to earn that.

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    Caitlin September 9, 2017

    Hi Haley, that’s a pretty unusual desire in the sugar world but doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there who’s looking for the same thing! The only thing we’d caution you to be wary about is that this sort of situation could be ideal with the right sugar daddy but with a predatory one – it could place you in a position of vulnerability where you’re completely dependent on them for your everyday living expenses as well as your housing. So if you do find a sugar daddy who wants the same thing, please make sure that they are a decent, considerate and trustworthy human being before moving in with him.

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