You’re a clever, proactive sugar baby who’s signed up on the best sugar daddy websites, taken pains to present the classiest, most enticing profile, and takes pride in crafting personable messages to several potential sugar daddies on a regular basis.
You go on dates with several of these potential sugar daddies and give them the best first sugar date experience they’ve ever had.
And now one of them is pursuing you.
He calls. He texts. He wants to see you again. So you go on another date.
He likes you. And he calls. He texts. He wants to see you again. So you go out yet again. The process repeats itself, with you hoping he’ll ask for an arrangement during the next date. But when you finally bring up the topic of allowance, he hems and haws. Turns out he never intended to make any considerable financial contribution to your life.
He just wanted your time and attention pro bono.
So what did you do wrong?
Nothing. Except investing your precious time in a man with no sugar daddy potential. But don’t worry – we’ve all had this happen before. A few too many times, actually, before we learned this little test.
And it’s such a simple test Stupid simple. If it hadn’t been for Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring – we wouldn’t even have known of it (check out the book, btw – it’s one of the best sugar baby books for good reason!).
Simple is beautiful – and that’s precisely what we love about this “Headphone Test.” Here’s how to do it (our modified version, 3-step version – you can find the original outlined in Ho Tactics).
The best way to hook a potential sugar daddy is to thoroughly knock his socks off on the first date. Be interesting, be funny, be engaging, be flirtatious and most of all – be your charming self.
Your first and foremost for the first date is to make him CRAVE to want to see you again. Under no circumstances should this involve sex.
If you did step 1 right, the potential sugar daddy should contact you within a few days asking to see you again (if you did it really right, he’ll be asking what he can write on the check to make you happy – in which case, you can skip the test :))
While you’re arranging your next date, slip it into the conversation that you need a set of headphones. You can make it seem like you can’t hear him very well, briefly comment on your broken headphones and ask him if he can swing by the store and grab you a pair before you meet up. Don’t specify the brand or price – tell him to surprise you.
As all experienced sugar babies know – just ’cause a POT has massive wealth, it doesn’t mean he’s willing to share any of it. This test is great because it allows you to find out (quickly and without asking) if and how willing a potential sugar daddy is to spend on you.
If you did the asking, you’ll know if this potential sugar daddy is worth any extra effort or time by the second date based on what he brings you.
If he shows up empty-handed and says he forgot – cut the date short and lose his number (unless he slips you $100 to pick some up yourself).
If he shows up with a cheap pair of headphones – $20, $30 – then you know he is willing to spend on you, but probably not that much. You can think of him as a Gift Daddy and keep him around or if you’re on the hunt specifically for a bigger fish – cut him loose.
Now if he presents you an expensive pair of headphones from a top brand – then you know he is both willing to spend money and consideration to make you happy. That’s what you want in a sugar daddy and this one is worth your time.
Have you tried the Headphone Test (or something similar)? Let us know in the comments how it went for you!