Hey there! I’m a quirky 20-something with a fittingly peculiar dating life. In vanilla world, I study fashion and am used to being the best dressed and one of the smartest people in the room.
I absolutely love how clothing can change how people express themselves. In my free time, I’m usually absorbed in a really good book, at the park with my Dachshund, or chatting with friends over a pot of tea and homemade muffins.
I had monetary motivations, like most of us. I was finishing my undergrad and getting ready to graduate from university and while I wouldn’t trade my education for anything, I realized I had a principle debt of roughly $90,000 working against me and collecting interest, even after significant scholarships and grants!
The last thing I wanted was to start out my career in a dead end job that I hated just to pay the bills. “JOB”, to me, is an acronym from “Just Over Broke”! An allowance has definitely provided me some flexibility and stability. I wanted to lay the foundation of having my money work for me, instead of against me. Find out how to cover your sugar baby butt (financially)!
Sugar Daddies will take a genuine interest in you as a person. Early on I realized I wasn’t comfortable talking about myself and I had to develop an elevator pitch to make the first date seem less like an interview. Be an interesting person and always have something exciting going on in your life.
Be prepared to be ghosted at every stage of the process, even by the ones who say they’re “reliable”! When it happens, don’t waste time lamenting your loss or trying to rope him back in, no matter how genuinely interested he seemed.
Normally this happens when someone would rather not say what’s on their mind, and relationships tend to work best when people attempt to communicate. You should be with someone who wants to maintain a presence in your life.
I met my Sugar Daddy through Seeking Arrangement. This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but I’ve definitely noticed that I’ve had a better experience with guys who do not waste time asking for pictures and messaging me constantly.
I prefer men who can meet fairly quickly because I find it’s better to gauge things in person. I knew mine was a keeper when he viewed me on LinkedIn, instead of asking me if I had a Facebook (ugh!).
Sugar Daddies know what they want, but they cannot outright say it in their profiles usually. After I received a few awkward and nervous messages, I revised my profile and spelled out options with the exact terms of arrangements I would be comfortable in (yes, including that I was comfortable sleeping with my SD).
This sounds obvious, but the way that I wrote it is important. It took the focus off of me and emphasized the interests and motivations of the type of Sugar Daddy that I was seeking. I get fewer views then when I started without the options in my profile, but most of the men who view me now message me.
By their message, I gauge whether or not he’s worth perusing further (I LOVE having the ball in my court). Sugar Daddies who know what they want like to be around people and Sugar Babies who know what they want.
Seeking Arrangements is one of the most popular sugar dating websites but it’s certainly not the only one. Check out our reviews for the best sugar daddy websites!
My favorite thing is the people I’ve met. Not all of them have been good to me, but I’ve met men who worked at McKinsey, former CIA agents, and someone who claimed to have been Hugh Hefner’s former business partner.
Things don’t always have to be spicy! There are two types of experiences that a Sugar Daddy is seeking. He is either overworked and is looking for relaxation and an escape in his Sugar Baby, or he is bored in one area of his life and needs a Sugar Baby to liven things up. Find out what types of men make the best sugar daddies!
A good way to gauge this is by asking him what his ideal vacation is. If he prefers to sit on a beach for a day and drink a Pina Colada, he prefers relaxation. If he prefers to take a safari, he’s a thrill seeker. Figure out which category he falls into and tailor the relationship around it.
You need to actively prevent Sugar Baby burnout instead of treating it once it’s already happened. This lifestyle can be very exciting and fast paced, but if you don’t regularly do things that bring you joy and happiness you will burn out.
Make a list of things that bring you joy to reference when you don’t want to get out of bed.
If you cannot discern between these three emotions, I highly recommend reading “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo, and cleaning out your closet. It sounds crazy and unrelated, but it will work wonders.
Editor’s Note: Totally second this recommendation – it does sound strange but is incredibly relaxing and empowering!