What’s Better: Pay Per Date vs Allowance? Here’s the Pros and Cons of Each

By Caitlin


If there’s one thing all sugar babies can agree on, it’s this: we love the sugar. But when you get into the nitty gritty of how we prefer to get the sugar, opinions diverge.

And we’re not just talking about the many different ways you can receive your allowance but about the frequency. As you may already know, the most popular ways for daddies to pay you are a Pay Per Date or an Allowance. And on the surface, the only difference between the two payment types seem to be the frequency.

But if you glance beneath the surface, you notice that there’s a lot more going on. So let’s break each of these down and take a look the pros and cons of both so you can choose the best one for you!

Pay Per Date (PPD): Pros and Cons

Pay Per Date (PPD) means exactly what the title is – you get paid every time you go on a date with him. So naturally, you’ll agree in advance on the amount as well as how often you’ll be seeing each other. And then every time you meet up, you get some sugar!

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Sounds nice and simple, right? And it is – that’s one of its main perks…

Pros of Pay Per Date (PPD):

  • Instant. You get paid right away. The date ends, he hands you the money and you are on your way.
  • Little risk. If he decides to disappear, he doesn’t owe you any unpaid dues.
  • Easier negotiation. It’s an easier amount to negotiate and easier to ask for a raise. Usually PPD is a lower amount (which is also its main drawback) so it’s easier to negotiate some numbers and it’s understandable to ask for a little more at the end of a month say for bills or rent that’s coming up.
  • Fun for SDs. Daddies enjoy this payment, I’ve been on many dates and it seems like they really enjoy this method of payment, it saves them money and it’s less of a headache.
  • More free time. You’ll have more time to yourself, if he’s paying to see you every time, most likely he will not ask to see you every night or every other night. This could be once every week or once every other week.

But it’s not all roses and sugar, PPD has some downsides as well…

Cons of Pay Per Date (PPD):

  • Less moolah. Like I said above, it will most likely be a lower amount in the few hundreds, even if you explain your budget per month is in the couple thousands, daddies do not want to fork over that much for seeing you one time.
  • Inconsistent. Consistent money is not guaranteed, maybe you’ve budgeted that if you do PPD once a week it’ll be enough money for you, but plans will always fall through, daddies will get busy and may not be able to see you every week, so the money you saw last month may not be the same income you get next month.
  • Short-term. The arrangements don’t last as long as an allowance arrangement. With a PPD, it gives him more freedom and the thought to leave if he only wanted some short term fun or if being a sugar daddy isn’t his thing anymore.
  • Bargaining. He may try to pull finances from you, by this I mean trying to negotiate the PPD rate by what you guys do. I had a daddy try to lower the amount because he said he would have to get a hotel room when we meet, that is understandable that it is another expense but that should never be accounted for under your expense.

Overall, the main perk of Pay Per Date is its simplicity. You’re guaranteed to get sugar each and every time you meet up with your sugar daddy. It’s easy on his end as well, since it doesn’t require a large upfront investment or long commitments. And thanks to this lower bar for entry, you’re likely to find more sugar daddies who are willing to spring for this.

That makes it a pretty sweet payment option when you’re first getting started sugaring and want some sugar quick and easy.

The downside, of course, is that it doesn’t require much money or commitment – which can attract short-term minded, bargain hunting sugar daddies. Which is less the case when it comes to Allowance…

Allowance: Pros and Cons

Ah, the famed sugar baby allowance. For many, this is the holy grail of relationships. And it’s no wonder why. Allowance is basically an amount that you pre-agree upon and then you continue to receive on a weekly, bi-weekly or monthly basis for the entire duration of your arrangement.

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Kind of like having a job, but fun.

Pros of an Allowance:

  • Consistent. It’s like a paycheck, you spend time and have fun for a living and you get an amount in your bank at the end of every couple of weeks. Yay!
  • More moolah. You get a bigger dollar amount. Like I said above, you get something in the hundreds for a date, whereas an allowance is something you two agree on a set amount for a whole month. This could be somewhere near the thousands or few thousands depending how generous he is.
  • Sprinkles. On top the allowance there may be some unplanned bonuses, like he could decide to go on a vacation or business trip and ask you to come along, on top of getting your monthly allowance you also get to travel a little bit.
  • Investment. Most sugar daddies who offer a bi-weekly or monthly allowance aren’t looking for a short-term thing – they usually plan to stick around for awhile. As such, they’ll be more invested in you, your life and your goals.

But of course, as great at Allowance arrangements are – they also have their warts…

Cons of an Allowance:

  • Scary to ask. It can be a little intimidating asking for such a big amount. Every sugar date I’ve been on has told me how turned off they are by these big amounts sugar babies are asking for, so it’s understandable it can be scary asking for a big amount.
  • More time. We’re not sure why but Allowance Daddies are needier. Remember that you agreed on an amount you’ll get for a set time, not getting paid each time you see him. Because he’s paying you a lump sum, he could ask for more companionship, for example maybe he wants to be texting you all day, phone calls every now and then. One week he could be wanting to see you twice and the next week he wants to see you five times. Remember you are getting paid the same no matter how much time you spend with him.
  • One man show. The main drawback to having an Allowance Daddy is that they tend to take up a lot more of your time and energy, which means that unlike with PPD, it can be a real challenge to juggle more than one at a time. That, of course, means you could left in the lurch if your Allowance Daddy suddenly becomes a Poof Daddy.

Overall, if you can score a reliable Allowance Daddy, life is pretty good. There’s no need to arrange several dates with several sugar daddies – you just focus on one and the sugar keeps rolling in on a consistent basis.

That being said, the lifestyle that this payment type allows can also make one rather complacent. Which is why we highly recommend that sugar babies keep their job, save up at least a couple month’s of living expenses in an emergency fund, and always, always get the allowance upfront. No waiting ’til the end of the month after spending a whole month of your time on him!

Pay Per Date vs Allowance: Which is Better?

As you can see there are both benefits and risks with both forms of payment. I, personally have always gone with PPD. There’s less strings and either person can easily agree to part if things aren’t working out.

Editor’s note: I, on the other hand, definitely prefer allowance. It may take longer to snag an Allowance Daddy but I’ve found that once a sugar daddy is in – he’s in for a long time and even after the arrangement, you’ll have built a connection that lasts.

Either way, talk it out with your sugar daddy and figure out what works with you and what works with your potential sugar daddy. He may lean towards a PPD more but it doesn’t hurt to ask for an allowance and negotiate around that.

It also doesn’t hurt to try both as well! It’s good to play it safe in the beginning and do PPD and talk to him about if the arrangement goes well and there is enough trust built, you two could move to a allowance instead. Use your intuition so you know you won’t get ripped off, it’s always okay to negotiate but never go lower than what you need for the sake of keeping a sugar daddy.

This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Noelle, aka The Different One. You can check out her sugar baby story here!

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