Even better? This can always be determined within the first couple of conversations you have.
The first thing you need to do, of course, is to determine your sugar daddy’s void. As in, what is he looking for?
Is he someone who’s been so successful in business that he doesn’t have the time for a typical relationship? Is he married and just looking for a little bit of excitement? Is he just lonely and looking for someone to connect with?
You need to really pay attention to what he’s telling you so you can assess exactly the type of arrangement he’s looking for.
Over the years, I’ve noticed that the sugar daddies I’ve had have fallen into a few categories. Here’s a few examples of what each type of sugar daddy is seeking and how to fill their void!
In London, I used to meet with a widower who had lost his wife about three years earlier and who didn’t have any children who lived nearby. We used to meet every Friday for lunch where we would just sit and chat about our week.
All he wanted was a connection with someone and we actually developed a real friendship. He never had to see anybody else because I fit what he was looking for.
I moved to Barcelona about four months after we started seeing each other and we actually stayed in touch for the first few months after I left. It was never about a physical connection or sex with him; he was mainly just looking for a companion.
Then there’s the guy who’s just looking for someone to talk to for a whole different reason. Maybe they’re having issues within their marriage or at their job or they might even be going through a separation or divorce that could involve disputes over things like custody or assets.
Men like this need an escape – they want to be able to pick up the phone and have a chat with someone who’ll be upbeat and positive or they might need an evening free of stress so they’ll call you up for dinner.
They’re looking for someone who won’t ask them about the troublesome things in their life but instead will be there to talk or even have a little flirt with. Think of yourself as a therapist of sorts (albeit an unqualified, unorthodox one). These men do not want to be bogged down with stress or problems; they want a fun dinner date to take their mind off the issues they are having in other areas of their life.
For this kind of man, you’ll want to have a very good reason if you ever need to cancel dinner. They won’t appreciate being let down; you’re meant to be a fun escape they can look forward to!
When you are out for dinner, keep things light and fun. Don’t bring up any work or marital issues they might be having unless they do. Keep it light and fun. If they do bring it up, just be there to listen. Don’t start to tell them how to deal with it or criticize how they have dealt with it so far – they probably have a lot of that from other people in their life. You should be there to just listen, sympathize or take his mind off it if needed!
Others simply want a piece of arm candy. They might just want you to put on a nice dress and heels and accompany them to dinner or a show or to keep them company if they have to go away for business for a couple of days. For these type of men, appearance is obviously important so I’m always sure to arrive with my hair and makeup immaculate.
You need to look put together which I know can be time consuming (and sometimes costly) but these are the men who will be happy to pay for your hair or nails or buy you a new outfit after meeting a couple of times so it should get easier for you. Again, these men want a fun night with you so it’s best to keep things light and fun on your dates.
Big piece of advice for keeping a man like this hooked is to simply have good conversation and also try not to drink too much! Know how to handle yourself because that matters hugely to this type of sugar daddy.
Many people look down on sugaring because they think it’s solely to do with sex and that any sugar baby is just an escort. Don’t get me wrong – I have nothing against escorts; I’m just not one. If sex was all these men wanted, they would hire a prostitute. These men are looking for something that’s missing in their own lives. You just need to figure out what it is!
This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Aly, aka The Travelholic Sugar Babe. You can check out her sugar baby story here!