5 Kinds of Bad Sugar Daddies and How to Deal With Online Abuse

By Caitlin


We’ve all been there right? You’re happily going about your sugar baby business, chatting online to a few potential daddies and then you see it; the horrible insult, the long paragraph telling you that you’re a worthless so and so.

There are a lot of reasons sugar babies get online abuse, but none of them justify such childish and nasty messages that girls receive on a daily basis. It’s just plain wrong and, even though it shouldn’t, it quite often knocks a baby’s confidence.

And the last thing you need, especially when you’re first starting out, is to allow yourself to get infected with a negative mindset. That’ll mess up your sugar game before you start, for sure!

So how do you steer clear of these nasty POTs and disinfect yourself of their negative energy? The first step is knowing how to identify them – here are the 5 types of bad sugar daddies and how to weed them out of your life quickly so you can pursue the good ones!

The Overly Disappointed Daddy

I think most sugar babies have encountered this kind of daddy. So you’ve spoken to this SD maybe a few times and you decided that you’re just not into him.

It happens, and that’s totally fine – sometimes you just have to see if you click with someone.

Most of the time the SD in question will be disappointed, but they will ultimately leave you alone after that. They understand that they will have better luck elsewhere and move on without much incident.

However, there is always one guy. That one sugar daddy who takes your lack of interest as a personal attack. It doesn’t matter how nicely you word it, this kind of daddy will over react.

Typical messages from this daddy tend to ramp up over time especially if you start ignoring them. Stage 1 is typically them trying to entice you back with promises of gifts or money. Stage 2 usually ends up as the insult stage. So queue being called various insults like a whore and pathetic and lazy. Stage 3 is excessive grovelling and trying to win you back after you’ve been offended.

So how you deal with sort of Bad Sugar Daddy?

  • Keep any responses short and polite, no matter what he says to you. This will most likely push him very quickly through to stage 3.
  • Don’t let his words hurt you. At the end of the day, you are an attractive and clever young woman no matter what any creep on the internet tries to tell you. Words can only hurt if you let them hurt. Repeat this short and sweet mantra: “Screw you, I’m awesome.”
  • DO NOT EVER MEET UP WITH THIS DADDY. If he’s verbally abusing you online, it’s fairly safe to say that he would have no problem doing it (or worse) in person. Only sexist pricks bully and harass women online and do you really want any form of relationship like that? No.
  • BLOCK HIM. This usually doesn’t have to happen because they will eventually get bored and leave you alone, but if you really can’t shake him then block away. That’s the beauty of the Internet, you can easily block the jerks out of your life and mind.

The Woman Hater

These guys are pretty easy to spot – cocky, self-important profile and an attitude to match. For some reason these guys tend to go for the women with pretty self-positive and friendly profiles just to then make them feel bad.

I have had this problem before.

I was once told by one man that I was a stupid bi*ch who would die without his help. Just and FYI it says on my profile that I speak several languages and am undergoing university education, but that didn’t seem to matter to this high school drop out and inheritor of family money because I am a woman.

So how you deal with sort of Bad Sugar Daddy?

  • I find it pretty funny to humiliate men like this by trying to start conversations that are far beyond their understanding of the world. While this provides a good source of entertainment while reaffirming that I am an intelligent woman, it comes with the risk of angering the woman hating daddy. If you don’t want more abuse then don’t do this.
  • Stop responding. While this will provoke some minor abuse for ignoring him, this sort of SD will get bored a lot faster and find someone else to bother.
  • BLOCK. It’s such an easy thing to do. Just one click of a button! How wonderful!

The “Nobody Puts Daddy in a Corner” Daddy

We’ve all had the frantic, “Why are you ignoring me?!?!?!” message. Which is no surprise considering the most common bad daddy is the clingy, insecure and annoying one who goes from 0 to 100 on the insult factor if you fail to respond within 10 minutes of being sent a message.

I feel like this is something that every SB experiences at some point in her sugar-life. You get a message…something along the lines of, “Hey beautiful , I’d love to get to know you better 😉” or something equally unoriginal and corny so you put your phone down or get distracted by something more interesting.

The next thing you know you’ve got around five more messages from the same guy telling you that you’re too ugly to get anyone to be your sugar daddy and to go die. Mature, right? Because such insecurity is going to suddenly make me wildly attracted to you, right? Wrong.

So how you deal with sort of Bad Sugar Daddy?

  • I just block these outright. I have no more patience for men who can’t give a girl some room to breathe. It’s not cute and it’s a typical sign of a controlling and overly possessive daddy which is not what I’m about. You probably aren’t either. After all, these are the sorts of sugar daddies who believe you should be at their beck and call every single second for the amazing privilege of being their sugar babies. Pass.
  • Reply with some really horrible excuse e.g. “Hi, Sorry I was just bathing the kitten I just rescued. I should be taking him to the vet, but instead I’m replying to you so he might die.” This usually tends to send them backpedalling and stumbling to apologize for being a massive weirdo.
  • Confront him. Tell him that what he did was not cool and that he should have more respect for himself and for women. This gets really tiring after a while, but who knows you might end up making a SD a better person.

The Straight Up Abusive Daddy

A cousin to the Woman Hater SD, this daddy will probably call you a whore in the first message and expect you to be all over him for it. I don’t get why guys think it’s cool and sexy to insult someone you’ve never met hoping that they will sleep with you.

In short, this is someone to avoid at all costs.

Like with the woman-hating sugar daddy, the Straight-up-douche will most likely be abusive in person so stay safe.

So how you deal with sort of Bad Sugar Daddy?

  • Politely inform him that you don’t like the way he is speaking to you and therefore are not interested in having an arrangement with him.
  • Respond in kind if you must. Insult him back. The chances are he won’t speak to you again after you’ve had the balls to stand up for yourself. But just so you can have the satisfaction of standing up for yourself and the pleasure of never hearing from that jerk again, immediately block him. Ah that magic little button!

The Low-Key “Just Joking” Abuser

These sugar daddies are the hardest to spot. They usually seem pretty nice and friendly, but occasionally they will say something seriously off color and you will think…hang on, was that a joke or is he serious.

Of course he will decide if he’s joking based on if you found it offensive or not. This “humor” is just a veil for his true feelings. And really, is it worth it even if he is joking?

I certainly wouldn’t want to be in an arrangement with someone who jokes about abusing women!

So how you deal with sort of Bad Sugar Daddy?

  • If he says something that you feel is abusive then challenge him. Make him explain how he thinks that it was funny to say something like that. This façade of a joke wears off pretty quickly and then you can uncover him for what he truly is.
  • Stop talking to him. Girls this guy is bad news! Stop. Talking. To. Him. Most of the time blocking this sort of bad daddy isn’t necessary – unless he turns into one of the other four mentioned in this article.

Ultimately, the sugar dating world is like any other social scene: there’s good apples, apples you just aren’t attracted to, bad apples, and a few really stinky apples. The trick is to toss the bad and stinky apples away as quickly as you identify them so you have time for the good ones!

Happy sugaring, girls and keep your head up!

This post is brought to you by one of our contributing SB writers, Ellie, aka Girl with the Red Hair. You can check out her sugar baby story here!

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